... This is an interesting topic, I'm glad you posted this. I have had an evolution of sorts in this area. My instinctive response had always been to be extremely good to the girl I'm with ~ make sure she's happy, satisfied, all that. Then I had a horrible breakup, where everything was blamed on me (I know now of course, that it takes 2), and my very next girlfriend was a spoiled brat; I had it in the back of my mind that I was NOT going to screw up this relationship, so I let little things go at first, which became bigger as time went on, until I finally hit my limit 18 months later, freaked out, moved out. My next love was long term, 9 years ~ perfect give and take, no complaints. After that ended, I fell in love HARD for this girl ~ I mean I worshipped the ground she walked on, she could do no wrong in my eyes, I would have, and did, anything for her ... including letting my love for her overtake my own principles and standards of how I expect to be treated. I LET her treat me without respect, but it came about so gradually, I didn't see it until I'd developed a pattern with her. In the end, I found out she'd been cheating on me, that ended it badly. So now, I know this about myself: I will treat my girl very well, I will enjoy keeping her happy, but I will never allow my own self respect or principles to be compromised for another woman ~ they will not respect a man who does that.

While I totally agree with you, I am going to change your words a bit since I think they are so well put to be anyone instead of a mans point of view.

I believe I would never compromise my self respect or integrity for anyone. I also won't respect anyone that will or expect me to.


Great post BTW

... You know what ? That's an excellent point, I'm glad you pointed that out ...

i am a nice guy

Yes you are, dear.

{{{{{LILY}}}}}



Well then I better start calling Jon a GOOD guy instead of a nice guy, huh?

I can't stand the wussies, especially when they posture as sincere and "together".

I'm a nice guy...till ya piss me off!!!

Do you know what you just said?

Quote: Do you know what you just said?

Sure! Nice until something drastic happens...lost my temper ONCE!!! My ex father in law turned out to be a child molester who was spending too much time with my boys...fella had it coming to em, but otherwise I'm laid back and personable

Catfish, I realize you are a newbie poster.

Here is a clue in:

Nice is a four letter word. It doesn't mean nice, it means sac less spineless doormatty bitter resentful little turd.

No one is allowed to call themselves nice....

To quote someone, you do this
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and the words you want quoted go inside
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I like grilled chicken pockets

Doh!!! Guess ya can't teach an old man new definitions. And thanks for the tip on replying.

Guess I'm not nice, howzabout "Chuck-Norris-Like"

Hey look nice banana dancing -------)

Wuss here!

Cat, the thread is titled nice guys EQUAL wusses

It was serious....

And you are welcome. I suggest reading a lot for awhile, then slowly get into posting.
Have fun with us in here, it's addicting though.