so my fellow mingle people I have a situation............the love of my life just moved to south carolina to start a new life and start our new life............we are still going to see each other but its difficult because I have school and kids to take care of.............anyways I have men who are pursuing me who know my man is gone and I love my man to death but temptation is a biotch........how do I not veer off so that I can keep my relationship true...........but some of my friends have said to sow my wild oats so that I can get it out of my system............which road should i take?

what do YOU want? to begin with

i just want a hot man :(

youre 35 and havent sowed your wild oats yet???

The fact that youre even asking this question.....tells me ALOT!!!

I think you should know what you want by now JMO

Sometimes I think that bit about sowing your wild oats is hogwash, especially if you are in a relationship. Maybe not so much if you are not. If you really love him, then don't risk that for anything. Keep him in mind. It should be very easy to tell those other men to go somewhere else, if you truly love your man.

Hey there is still after the divorce wild oats whats wrong with that...........damn there is a time limit.............

Babe if I knew I wouldnt ask................

nothing wrong with dating around if you want it doesnt have to go anywhere

have some meals then if you like the possibility of meeting someone then you prolly ought to break it off

Well, is sowing your oats going to be worth risking the love of your life for? That is what you need to ask yourself. Will they truly understand that you needed to do that? On the other hand, would you accept it if he is in South Carolina "sowing his oats"?

Also are you sure that the people who are your friends advising you to do this, really, truly have your best interests at heart... or are they alone themselves and could really care less about the love you have seemed to have found for yourself? Just some questions to ask yourself...

Remember the old saying... "with friends like these, who needs enemies..."

Your pic tells me alot but wht ev..................

I totally understand that but I just dont want to end up having a second divorce and I actually think that he needs to as well do the same if we both agree.............

if you say you want to stay true.

the answer should be easy

Mentork's advice?


Have hot lezzy sex and video tape it, then send it to bf as a gift. ^_^


You get "relieved" and you get to keep your man, everybody wins...


^__________^

point taken, it is a tricky one in deed

but I am not a lesbian I am thinking of more of men................

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And you don't think cheating on him wouldn't make him want to divorce you if he can't trust you. He would find out, because someone would say something at some time. If you doubt the relationship now, then you shouldn't be with him at all.

Well then perhaps at this point you are not ready yet to settle down with "the love of your life" if that is really how you feel. You would definetly need to have a talk with him regarding your feelings. Good Luck!