I work a lot and have to do so to pay for school. Being a full time student I also spend much of my time doing home work. I work as an EMT and do 48 shifts on the weekend and go to school 5 days a week. I was seeing a girl who knew how busy I was when she met me; yet now she wants me to change like quit my job or stop school and choose a different carrier because she doesn't want me to be a fire fighter( too busy and dangerous). She gets mad at how i have school and work and can't stand that she cannot see me every day. This is a job i have dreamed about sense I was a child. Am i wrong for wanting to continue against her will? She broke up with me because i was too busy and our carriers are different but now she wants to date me again but gives me guilt trips about how busy I am. I have already studied 2 years for this job and am nearly finished would she really care about me if she gave me an ultimatum to give it up or lose her. Sorry for the stupid ramble just wanted to see what people had to say... If any thing.

dont give up something u have worked hard for, for a girl.. you are young chances are she isnt the one and when she leaves u will still have your job :) just my opinion.

In my opinion, you need someone that is supportive of you and the work you have done. This girl seems to be working against you. If you give this all up for her, then all you have is HER. You shouldn't have to lose who you are or who you want to become for a person you're dating. They should be part of what you're doing and support you in what you're doing. If she can't support you now, she won't later either. I'd drop her. I need someone that's with me, not against me. I don't like all of the hours my bf puts in. It really cuts into our relationship. However, he does it for extra money for his kids and to support himself. So I support him in that and we make do with what we have.

sounds like someone was catchn serious feelings......(her)

if she was serious about him, she should support him and not try and "change" him to suit her needs. Just my opinion...

If you give up what you've worked so hard for, you will regret it later. And you will hold it against her.

She technically broke up with me already but now wants to get but together and won't if i don't change what i want to do. If i tell her i won't change my carrier she cry's and tells me i all ways neglect her feelings and only care about myself and tells my how selfish i am. I don't even get to see my friends or study i failed 1/2 my classes last semester because she demands to be there when i study. ( which is very difficult for me to study with any one period ) But i feel bad to just cut someone off i honestly wish we could be friends in a way but i need to do this for myself i can't give up my dreams and should any one really ask me to? I would never ask someone to do that for me. Whats the saying "if you truly love something you'll let it be free"

oh yea i agree she shouldnt try to stifle his dream....
i just sayn she want him all to herself....

In mine line of work you're kind of married to your job well i guess just like any one else is in a way especially because well if i don't work i don't go to school and i don't get pay my bills. Maybe it's just not the time in my life for anything serious; I should just stick to my books and finish school.

yes you should

Whats the best way to tell some one it's just not the right time in your life for a relationship because you have school and work and just don't the time to give them what they feel they deserve.

Just like that. From my perspective, and while the demographics of this town suggest at most, 3 or 4 compatible potential mates, my business is growing dramatically and to be honest, I'm staying put. Anyone I'm involved in in the future wouldn't last long if they interfered with my successes, which also doesn't mean I wouldn't be encouraging of theirs.

She sounds insecure and needy. Let's say you give this up,,, what next? JMO but it sounds like your life will never be your own because there will always be something taking you away from her. Time to pull her head out of your A$$ and move on.

So she showed up at my house after we broke up and refuses to leave. She is asleep on my my couch now... I don't want to call the cops but i'm afraid for her i dont know what to do.

She's not going to listen. She has her own idea of what love is.

The best thing to do is be consistent and repeat your agenda everyday.

i got some experience with this one buddy and i learned the hard way and if i could go back and change things i would!

Sweetie...do not give up your dreams. She says you are selfish, she better look in the mirror. Set her free, let her go, and run! Get as far away from her as possible. Continue your studies, when you are finished and have your goal; then you will find that one person that will share your life. Not try to control it. Good Luck!

okay ive done good in life but its come at some exspense now that i have what i wanted i dont want it.. if that makes any sense. A good woman is everything! cheerish them **** the job but at the same time you have to get her past the insecurites and i never was able to accomplish that goal but until i lost her i didnt realize that. i lost her to cheating and its probably partially my fault cause i was chasing material crap i dont want now. but at the end of the day its too late now. so i say its the simple things that matter if you love her just talk to her pamper her and if she cant get past it then move on. but a job that is too demanding is not worth it. now if you have a goal and at some point u will have time for a relaationship the bare with it but there has to be some light at the end of the tunnel. hope that helps cause ive been there man!

sounds like a fatal attraction to me,..


she broke up with you to manipulate her cause,..make her stick to her words,..

she`s sounds obsessed with you,..

I don`t know if there is any gentle way of letting them go,..

goodluck with that,..

Run away from her.. she is insecure and you should not have to give up what you are doing. If she really cared about you, she would support and help you...