ok so i was out last night with my confidant and we got into an argument. he and his girl recently split up and he was telling me about his rebound girl. i told him that the rebound is not conducive to much of anything other than messing with someone mentally and he agreed, but his argument was that the mental games would be outweighed by how it put him at ease in his hard time. i told him he was an idiot, but it got me wondering.

i personally havent had a rebound since my breakup and wsa having a really hard time earlier, but i think i was better off for not going that route and just sucking it up and hurting without hurting anyone else. my philosophy is that if i cant make a situation better, i do no harm.

what are your opinions on the rebound guy/girl? does it help? or does it just prolong the inevitable pain?

I agree with you totally 7z3r05.

Rebounds are just band-aids to the previous relationship I feel. Just to fill the gap and what not you know. Sometimes they work out and one can be with that "rebound" for a long time. Personally I would rather be in a pity relationship then a rebound. Why? Because I feel you are more so being used in a way when in a rebound. IDK... Whatever.. JMO

**POOF**

it differs from person to person, but make sure that your rebound is AWARE that he/she is just a rebound... there's no excuse for messing with someone else's emotions for your own personal gain...

what guy or girl in who hasnt been heavily medicated would be ok with just being a rebound?

rebounds have more baggage than a luggage pickup at an airport.

I don't know if mine was a rebound or if she was just a player. But I sure do have fond memories of it.

for some people a rebound is all they need to get moving on. it really does matter from person to person. as for who would willingly BE a rebound? ya know, some are desperate enough to be that person if they have been single long enough, others might be willing if it was a friend that they had feelings for over the course of a significant time. each person is diffrent. just gotta weigh your options personally and decide whats best for you.

tell your buddy that karma is a bithch.

i did. and he laughed.

Im sorry, but I think I got a harder one. How lond after your girlfriend dies in a tragic car accident would her parents think its ok to start dating again?

And to answer your questions, rebounds are fun, but only if you get it from the start that it is all ur bein used 4.

damn... i dunno. and i hope i never have to figure that out.

I personally agree with your logic. Rebound relationships suck. I know I was the rebound relationship only thing was I didnt' know it. I made it a firm policy after that happened never be the rebound relationship.

you'll have to get advice about rebounds from dennis rodman

I think rebounds are just another means to get over the "hump".

Why bother to drag someone else into it, when, if you really try hard enough, you can do it all on your own.

And in answer to this one:
How long after your girlfriend dies in a tragic car accident would her parents think its ok to start dating again?

I'm not trying to be insensitive here, but why does it have to be okay with her parents or any one for that matter? Isn't that completely up to you and no one else's business?

lol. i can always depend on a post from u.

Rebounds just hurt everyone involved. If you can just suck it up for say 6 months or so then you are much better off. And much more prepared to go into another relationship... besides what if you have that rebound guy/girl on your side when you meet the real deal?

She was my rebound, and I was her rebound.
And it was an absolute train wreck.
I wouldn't wish it on anybody.




Now 27 yrs ago, I had a rebound after my first divorce that was the best 6 months ever.