if any one can explain the correct way to deal witha a manic depressed person, i would love to hear it, their behavior on xmas eve, forced me to leave on xmas day,after 5 and half years. i do not understand what to expect next, help?

make them happy or get them meds.....

Were they on their meds?

My experience was with a dual diagnosis Bi-polar and Paraniod Scitzophrenic. So I can't really say much.

But I do know there are support groups for family of people who are Bi-polar.

And sometimes it is helpful for the spouses or partners to have some counseling too. If only to better understand how to live with it as well.

no meds , since they don;t have an issue it is all someone else problem

I dont want any chicks with mental problems

The best thing you can do for them... is make yourself happy. until they admit there is a problem and want help... you cant do a thing for them ... take care of you

but but i thought you loved me

They don't make decisions when they are off their meds like they would when they're on their meds.

well i am male with huge amounts of patience, and after 5yrs worth of crap and abuse from this disorder i left her

you are not telling us the full story, is this something recent or you have been dealing with this this entire time?

well they would have to be on meds and acknowledge there problem first,i am trying my best, but i need to be healthy to help

Ultimatum, meds/psychotherapy or the highway. It is no help to this person to even slightly enable that process. Also be aware that this is a progressive illness, that means after every episode it will get worse the next time. Tough road. I have two friends that are bi polar and several family members and friends that work in the field aiding dual diagnosis folks.

i have been dealing with illness in another,for 5yrs gradual then more and more often, till daily

Have you heard from them since you left?

If this just happened, why does your profile say that you are tired of being single again?

Is this daily mood swings or solid depression or mania? Has she been diagnosed? If it is daily she could be rapid cycling, usually accompanied by an unreasonable amount of focused activity, lack of sleep, kinda like someone on cocaine only barely manageable. Sometimes folks who do rapid cycle, after a few years will start to experience larger psychotic breaks.
You should get professional help. Even just living with someone with a mental illness takes its toll, maybe you could use some help as well. Just a thought from a non professional

That's a good thought. A person can get a mild case of PTSD from the abuse.

well i am dealing with it now and have been for yrs, and i understood i needed help and to get away from this or i would loss it also, they refuse to get help