It must be your age group. I've not had any problems with that. It's assumed that you have children at my age.

I can't beleive I'm not the only pregnant woman on here..lol...I look it as a great way to weed out the jerks...but then there are the young ones that think it would be fun to be with a pregnant woman...a Real man will accept your children as a part of your life, we just need to find them. That is the hard part.

I know what you mean. But in my case my kids are grown but I am raising my two year old grandson. It will only be for a year or two....(maybe), but guys my age don't want a two year old tagging behind.

I have never run from a relationship for that reason, but I have been in one. The childs father was a big problem in the relationship, and when it was all over it was harded to leave the child than the mother. I think most of it is fear, and maybe thinking the time alone with you wouldn't be there. I wouldn't because of you having a child so I really don't understand the guys problem. You are better off without them anyway.

2 daughters and 3 grandkids here I have no right bolting. At my age I think everyone has kids so it does not bother me

Dateing someone with kids is really tough. It is very definitely a complicated thing with not only the person and their children but all the ex outlaws and the "Step-parent" taboos. A lot of time you are more likely to get stepped on than have any real parental role. People say they want you to love their child like your own but if you do and the child loves you back their is often a lot of jealousy from the parent or/and the Ex's or even your own children and family. What is even harder is leaveing a relationship where you like the kid better than you do the parent and don't want them to suffer anymore.

I always let them know through our first act of communication, long before we get to know each other. That way there aren't issues later.

There are lots of us real men on this site, however we go unnoticed for the most part, or just plain ignored when we post to a thread, sometimes paying attention to how a person posts can tell you a lot about the person inside...

Oh and to the OP, chin up girl, waiting for that special someone can sometimes take a long time, been single for quite a while myself, but i'm sure one day a special lady will come along, and the wait will be worth it.. and I believe it will be worth it for you too..

1 they think you are looking for a daddy, and they aren't looking to settle
2 you have responsibilities, they don't want responsibility
3 if they take off because this is the way they feel, you are better off they take off now

Hey, be happy they did, they certainly wern't for you. Next time let them know you have children first, and your luck will change. Lots of us guys are ok with kids, if their good kids, and we've been known to get attached to them too. lol
I've heard of guys and gals that can't love their mates children as if they were their own, but that makes no sense to me at all. How can a person love a dog like it was a child of theirs, but not have the ability to love their mates children the same way. I don't get it...

I don't believe they don't have the ability to love the children the same way. I think they will not let themselves love their mates children because of some fear they have, or a basic insecurity in themselves.

It's true, one shouldn't sweat the 'loss' of a guy that runs when he hears the word kid. He's not for you. although there may have been chemistry, that person would have to accept them in the long run. Someone's gotta be out there. And you shouldn't worry about reaching another's standards, he should love and accept you for you, munchkins and all!

That's true.

I would have to agree with the age group thing. The kids could be looked at as a competition for your affection.

my sons are 19 & 21, i wouldnt even think of dating someone who had little kids.

Your question was as follows..
When you get to know someone why as soon as they find out you have kids they leave you in the dust why does that happen?
The simple answer lies in the saying that "Love Conquers All"...
If that Love isn't there , then you're not going to make it anyway so in an odd sense , it is a blessing to you and the children that he or she did not stay and play you...

If the man feels that way, then he's insecure, IMO. There's always grown-up time after the kids are in bed.

Why wouldn't anyone be up front when they meet someone and let them know they have kids in the first place? If they are getting to know you, that would be the first thing I tell them, since that is my main priority is being a mom. If you hide it from them, and then expect they should stick around, thats your own problem.

as I stated earlier...good or bad...children definitely are a factor in the development of a relationship...the cause and effect usually leads to...lack of privacy...and...lack of spontaneity...to requirements for ANY deep and long lasting relationship...for me...it's not about competetion...or...jealousy...at all...

Selfishness.