Like if you are a way a few months or longer?


Or perhaps gone away to School for a year and, can't take spouse or mate
with you?



Is there ever an excuse?

What do you think men?

I'd say you gotta do what you gotta do. I couldn't imagine going a year
without it......I know I couldn't do it. Love nor No Love.

If you have to move on, then break it off.
Never an excuse.

I KNOW that people can let life get between them & mess up a great
relationship.
I also KNOW that, if 2 people mean enough to eachother it is possiable
to forgive & move on. We cheated on eachother, got help & came back
even STRONGER in our relationship.
I know this is contrary to what most think. My answer:


NEVER SAY NEVER........you might end up eating your words.

thanks all




burt I am surprized at you! lol

Having sex is NOT a necessity. Especially considering that
masturbation is always available for physical release of sexual tension.

No, there’s never an excuse.

And I have to disagree with Oldsage’s conclusion. Just because a couple
CAN recover from infidelity does NOT excuse it from having happened in
the first place.

Well I don't believe there is an excuse for it no matter what my
thoughts only. If ya gonna cheat cut the strings if ya can't refrain
from it and you know they will be back get real ya must not love them
the way you say or think you do. Myself I want forgive for that at all
been there had if happen and did not forgive. Some can I'm one that
want!

I agree with Txsgal.

If you can't keep a commitment don't make it in the first damn place.

Simple as that.

Only if the relationship is over. There is no excuse for cheating on
someone you love.

Surprised at me for what? Being Honest... All this ado about "oh no, I
would never do that" "horse crap". that's what I say. I haven't been a
year without it since I found out what it was back around age 15...and
I'm now 40. Basic Training...caught me 12 weeks without it...and as
soon I got loose...I GOT LAID. I make no apologies for speaking my
truth. Gal has told me she would "cut me off" before...told her she
didn't have a patent on it...they gots millions of 'em out there......

Well, I feel very strongly that there is no excuse for cheating, but if
a couple is having serious problems and a divorce is pending, while all
that is going on, if either one finds someone else in the meantime, just
because the divorce isn't final yet doesn't mean they are "cheating,"
IMO. Legal papers or not, the marriage is over.

My ex husband didn't sleep with me for a year before our divorce and I
KNEW he had to have someone else. Because I am so adamant about not
cheating, I remained faithful. But about two months before our divorce
was final, I started seeing a guy I used to date before I met him.

Was that cheating? Not in my eyes it wasn't. My husband broke our
marriage vows by being emotionally cruel to me, and by cheating on me
long before divorce was pending.

So, no, I don't condone cheating, but if a contract is dishonored, then
I don't consider it cheating.

If someone's in what they claim to be in a committed
marriage/relationship, and looks outside the marriage/relationship for
sex, then that IS cheating and there is NO excuse for it whatsoever.

Sage,
You know I love and respect you, But I must disagree.
Forgiveness is a wonderful thing and each situation and person will make
that decision for themselves.
The key word here is EXCUSE, I don't believe in excuses.

I'm wondering if in OS's case, as in so many others, cheating wasn't THE
issue, cheating was a perceived way to "solve" (or at least to escape)
an underlying issue(s). (Am I right, OS?)

Anyway, the willingness on the part of both OS and his wife to seek
counseling together and get help to discover the root of the problem is
admirable. Not many people care enough about their marriage to do that.

It would be tough as hell to get through but, so long as it's done with
sincerity, I think it can be done.

There are an infinite many excuses for cheating; but none of them are
acceptable

People ought to care about how they affect the minds and hearts of
others, as if we all shared but one life.

If you can't be honest with another, perhaps you should not be in any
relationship with anyone.

NO ... there is no EXCUSE for cheating ... it is what it is.. doesn't
matter who did what to whom FIRST ... IF you are in a relationship then
its cheating... if its gone south ??.. end it ..so NO cheating ,, you
see ?..

no no no no
nut uh no way
only a fool cheats cause in the long run you are cheating your
self right out of you own soul
sooner or later not even your dog will love you

I spent 13 years in a marriage full of abuse and
mistrust, cheating,,, I was able to forgive him after
our divorce, will never be able to forget,,., Communication, trust,
Respect is the key in any relationship,I believe when this stops so does
the relationship, Cheating in my eyes is wrong and if you feel you have
to stray then thier is no base
for a true relationship

Very well said LaMom

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I agree with Mom. Never EVER a need for it, If you truly love a person
you will stay true and committed to that person. If you EVER feel the
need then that is when you need to seek help or sit back and evaluate
the situation.