Topic: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?
Ruth34611's photo
Thu 12/25/08 06:57 AM

no more constant waxing!


another good answer! drinker

RoamingOrator's photo
Thu 12/25/08 07:31 AM
Edited by RoamingOrator on Thu 12/25/08 07:32 AM
When a woman throws you out of your house, one positive is:

you no longer have a "honey do" list

All that junk you were going to throw out, not your problem any more

No more getting heavy objects from the car and bringing them to the house

I only have to open my jars

I get the whole bed (and covers)

I get to watch what I want on TV

Six Words - NFL SUNDAY TICKET WITH SUPERFAN PACK

You can come home drunk again

Can you say boxer shorts in the living room?

Showering daily becomes an option

You don't have to shave as close or as often

You can wear what you want

A full sized dog, not one of those little yappy things

You can start putting beer in the fridge instead of keeping it in the garage

Two words - Strip Club

You get all of your paycheck (or, if you don't, you feel the money missing is worth it)

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Downside:

You have to get a Victoria Secrets catalog sent to your new digs under your own name


special_guy's photo
Thu 12/25/08 08:10 AM
No more incessant nagging

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Thu 12/25/08 08:14 AM

:smile: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?:smile:


An end to the inevitable domestication mission -- "we should get married, we should settle down, you'd make such a great father" -- no, no, and no....but the parrotlike repetitious squawking goes on and on until I find a way out....

....and from there, into the next parrot cage.

Planet of the Birds.





PATSFAN's photo
Thu 12/25/08 08:22 AM
Freedom to do what you want

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Thu 12/25/08 08:42 AM
Edited by angelindarkness on Thu 12/25/08 08:43 AM


:smile: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?:smile:


An end to the inevitable domestication mission -- "we should get married, we should settle down, you'd make such a great father" -- no, no, and no....but the parrotlike repetitious squawking goes on and on until I find a way out....

....and from there, into the next parrot cage.

Planet of the Birds.






Be clear about your expectations and needs and don't waver on calling them on it at the first sign of their defaulting on it. And, stop choosing women that need or want more, maybeh? winking winking flowerforyou

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Thu 12/25/08 09:15 AM

Be clear about your expectations and needs and don't waver on calling them on it at the first sign of their defaulting on it. And, stop choosing women that need or want more, maybeh? winking winking flowerforyou


You know what the problem is, though? They always lie.

I'm VERY up front about it, going in -- no drugs, no alcohol, no kids. And it's always, "That's OK, I don't want any of that either."

Three months down the road, it's all different.

The DAY I met my wife, I explained to her how I felt about this stuff. "No problem." I ended the marriage because she was taking drugs on weekend visits to her mother's house. She sold the ring I bought her, to buy drugs.

I think I'm as clear as I can possibly be about my expectations. That's not the issue. The issue is they can't be up front about theirs -- they somehow think they're going to be able to change my mind down the road.



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Thu 12/25/08 09:20 AM
Edited by angelindarkness on Thu 12/25/08 09:21 AM


Be clear about your expectations and needs and don't waver on calling them on it at the first sign of their defaulting on it. And, stop choosing women that need or want more, maybeh? winking winking flowerforyou


You know what the problem is, though? They always lie.

I'm VERY up front about it, going in -- no drugs, no alcohol, no kids. And it's always, "That's OK, I don't want any of that either."

Three months down the road, it's all different.

The DAY I met my wife, I explained to her how I felt about this stuff. "No problem." I ended the marriage because she was taking drugs on weekend visits to her mother's house. She sold the ring I bought her, to buy drugs.

I think I'm as clear as I can possibly be about my expectations. That's not the issue. The issue is they can't be up front about theirs -- they somehow think they're going to be able to change my mind down the road.


You are right. I've been there - done that - have the Tee shirt. It still doesn't excuse me from holding the other to what I expect from them and the relationship - every single step of the way. Every time I let it slip, I am enabling that manipulative or deceptive behavior. It is a dance some of us do. And, some of us (including me) need to learn better steps from good teachers.

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 12/25/08 10:16 AM

:smile: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?:smile:

You save a lot of money and you get to lay around on the couch sunday afternoons and watch football.

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 12/26/08 02:56 PM


:smile: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?:smile:

You save a lot of money and you get to lay around on the couch sunday afternoons and watch football.
drinks truedrinks

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Fri 12/26/08 05:34 PM
dancing for joy - again

special_guy's photo
Fri 12/26/08 05:38 PM
You can do whoever ,whenever , whereever you want

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Fri 12/26/08 05:42 PM
and you DON'T have to do whoever, whenever, wherever, either. :wink:

Monier's photo
Fri 12/26/08 05:43 PM

:smile: What are some positive aspects to a break-up?:smile:


All of a sudden, you're a winner again

MeChrissy2's photo
Fri 12/26/08 06:05 PM
Finding myself again.

Poetrywriter's photo
Fri 12/26/08 06:10 PM
You get a chance to learn from the mistakes you made if you are to get into another relationship.

bohemianbugeater's photo
Fri 12/26/08 06:18 PM
:laughing: :laughing:

Less mourning sessions

Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?
Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.



i agree with alzheimer...at the very least i learn more about myself and what i like/dislike in my partners.....cheersdrinker

bohemianbugeater's photo
Fri 12/26/08 06:20 PM

No more incessant nagging


no promises here! ill constantly be nagging you.... 2 join me in the shower! smokin smooched :heart: :heart: :heart:

bohemianbugeater's photo
Fri 12/26/08 06:23 PM

and you DON'T have to do whoever, whenever, wherever, either. :wink:


ya he probably meant to say he gets to do bohemianbugeaters whenever and wherever he wants! silly men and their freudian slips! lol jk!!! poor sg...im c0ckblocking you so bad today lmao...*kisses and makes it better*

OpenArms36's photo
Sat 12/27/08 11:01 AM
Bank account goes back up!