I collect stuffed animals,bear figurines,collect all kinds of things,have tons of pics,well I just like having pics of family,friends,have others pics and inspirational sayins.things like that,when I go out I find things such as rings,have found Necklaces,I have bought them,I like to collect,I collect watches.I just like to collect things nothing wrong with this.

I do have things boxed up and put away,my apartment is clean.

I do not see nothing wrong with what I do,I am very secure with who I am,and nothing I do makes me any less a man.and one day I do want to meet a special lady.

here is the question

ladys

have been talking for 4 months
but not no more
but she came to my apartment
she was abused in other relationships.
she was showing signs she wanted me to do more,but I aint like that.I dont sleep with/mess around with woman I dont know to well.I dont know if she was just expecting me to do something or what.

but I didnt

and she texted me and said to many things about me she was not comfortable with.
then she went on to say I needed to grow up,be a man and not some weird person who is unsure of his sexuality.
and when she came over she did make the remark that my apartment was to clean for a single guy.

pls explain this to me why she would say this??

She probably is just used to really messy guys......

Neat guys = gay


And maybe she was upset that you didnt at least try to do something with her...most guys would.

just because a guy is neat,dont make em gay

I knowwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!

oc.........Im finding that most people on here that ask questions dont want to know the real answers.

They refuse to look at themselves.............


This has nothing to do with you or your question either. I find most are either afraid or too stupid to respond with an intelligent answer.

like I said I am very secure with myself,I see nothing I do as wrong,having a clean place to live says great things about you.

I understand what you saying gypsy


but I want the real answer and nothing more,i wouldnt of asked if I was afraid to hear the truth.

I'm with you, OC

Just tell a lady that you're not after her body

and it's like throwing water on a cat (not you)

...and then, when you meet, and you still don't make a move--even if she's just "looking for friends"--then next week, or next month, she's all hooked up with Mr. Wonderful.

It isn't you. It's who they want to believe that you are, that matters. (<--advice from Krupa, to me. He's wise.)

scoundrel thanks bro



and you right

Sounds like you just happened to catch an insecure woman. You stated that she had been in abusive relationships, so my guess is that she doesn’t know a decent guy when she meets one. That’s her problem, not yours.

thank you sweet

She doesn't know what she is missing {{{oc}}}

(((((bad)))))

Kind of sad! I may have come to expect most men to try something on me, but I am delighted when they show such restraint and respect for me as to NOT to try a physical maneuver. She's just used to having that physical stuff be the only way a man shows he's attracted to her. She's used to only abusers and trash.
As for your collections and neatness, she's evidently not used to someone that well-rounded or WELL-GROUNDED!!!

sometimes, when people don't get what they expect/want from another, they turn it around and try to cast as much blame and self-doubt on the other as possible, to prevent themselves from feeling rejected.

i'd rather have a guy who collected stuff than walk into an apartment that was completely bare. (so long as he's doing the dusting!)