i have been looking for friends for 35 year been around the world now in wichita ks. no matter how i dress or talk, just cant get one to say yes to coffee, have no kid no family no drinking, smoke and not in a faith, no drama, just me, ok now i need tips

Maybe they don't like coffee. I mean not every body likes coffee now days, there's always tea or pop etc etc etc.

lol tried that two, lol does not work

We can't not tell you what you are doing wrong or if you are doing anything wrong... but we can tell you maybe you should re look how you are asking and the type of people you are asking...

some times i think its because i dont have family and no kids is a main resean, but when i meet people or know people, they always say your a great person, ect ect.

have to run to work for a few will check on tip later tonight , thanks all in advance.

hi and welcome

Maybe the main cause is the fact that it's not an appealling activity.

Welcome wolf. Bet you'll make lots of friends here on this site.

thanks for replys i changed my bio a little more maybe it will help, thanks

I would get rid of "don't have a lot to offer". That just doesn't sound too good. To me, it makes me think your down on yourself or you are flat broke and would expect a woman to take care of you.
You do have a lot to offer a woman. You have a lot of talent. Think about the things people tell you that are good things about you and put them in your profile. I hope this helps.

thanks will redo that section, not a party er , so i have only input on my life not family or kids , so dont have a lot to offer when thouths tipic come up, most people will tell me you can relate because you dont have that experieance to offeer a opinion..

why would you not having kids be a reason them NOT to date you?

jmo but I'm not going to spend 1.5 hours making myself look like a girl for a 30 minute date.

I haven't looked at your profile, but I get the sense that you need to be more assertive and confident.

Negativity and insecurity are not attractive traits.

having kids seems to be a big deal with alot of female, they seem to reason that is you have never had a family or kids you cannot relate to them because you have no time in the trenches, as for being down yes i am in my life time i have had one girl friend and one marriage for 4 years. and no sex dates inbetween. sex is not the deal breaker, just want to find that person who fits most the time in my life. i have been all over the world, and been in almost all the states except 4,, and still looking., most people say i am really nice and fun to be with but they are all married for the ones who say that.. thanks agian for the honest answers...

not sure how this relates

she's saying a coffee date might only last 30 minutes or so, and it's too much trouble to make herself look great for so little time. perhaps you could start asking them out for dinner and a movie?

That might be true about the kids. Whenever I say how much someone's kids get on my nerves, the instant response is, oh you don't have kids, you don't understand. I'm pretty sure if I was a mom, I wouldn't be raising little terrors, so that's irrelevant. However, at a certain age it becomes more difficult to find a relationship; most people start pairing off really early and if you miss that you're pretty much screwed. Best of luck to you, though.