Many of us have been in VERY bad relationships in the past. Probably, in a lot of cases, more than one.

Now here we are on a " dating " site.

But, could part of the reason why the majority of us are even here, be because we simply don't trust ourselves to make a good decision about our next potential mate??

I mean, with my previous track record, I really am not sure if I can trust myself to make a good decision about who I should be interested in.

Anyone else???

I completely understand what you are saying.

Hmmm....lots of views....but it would appear that I am the only one....lol

Makes perfect sense to me. I think I am afraid of a repeat of the bad ones. I don't think my heart could take being broken again.

I don't trust myself at all....

I can completely understand that fear.

But does that mean that you don't think you can trust yourself to pick someone who wouldn't break your heart?

I trust myself.. I'm here cuase I don't have time to get out sometimes being too busy.. and I can find good conversation here anytime day or night... I've found people I enjoy talking to... Haven't had anyone meet me yet.. but who knows.. I'm in no rush...

I trust myself, its the other person that I always wonder about. There is never a guarantee going into a relationship that my heart is safe with that person. My problem is that I jump into things too quickly and it always backfires. Maybe next time I need to slow down and really learn about the person and hopefully it will turn out better. I know what I want, and what I have to do is know what the other person wants as well.

I'm just here to perve the ladies.

I'm 45 and I have never been in a bad relationship. I have seen good in all the relationships I have been in.

If you can't trust yourself, then "WHO" can you really trust.

I'm here to find a sweet lady to date. I have no ulterior motives and I'm completely capable of making decisions for myself. So that theory is debunked.

Trust yourself first bro! Then move on and find that lady you can trust.

Good luck! No, REALLY!

I certainly don't trust myself as far as who I am attracted to. I am here to screen potential dates for compatabilty of values, lifestyle & goals so I don't "fall for" the way he looks or smells & then find out I can't stand being around him.

Well until I started here I had pretty good confidence in my ability to pick a good guy but after recent events I am wondering. One thing I do know it does put you in the position to at least ask the significant questions. Wheather you get honest answers or not is harder to tell.

honesty is joke because half the people u meet are fake. And not to stray from the topic if here ya man bad relationships mess you up

not if the person learns from them and moves on..

Im learning to trust myself, Im also learning all about love

This is the way that I feel.

true maybe but i havent had that much time yet to get to that enlightenment....

Sure. I hear what you are saying and its true. However, relationships are not about perfection or finding the perfect mate. Im reminded of that scene in Moonstruck,

"Loretta, I love you. Not like they told you love is, and I didn't know this either, but love don't make things nice - it ruins everything. It breaks your heart. It makes things a mess. We aren't here to make things perfect. The snowflakes are perfect. The stars are perfect. Not us. Not us! We are here to ruin ourselves and to break our hearts and love the wrong people and *die*. The storybooks are *bull*****. Now I want you to come upstairs with me and *get* in my bed!"

I wasn't really talking about the " perfection " because that is just an illusion anyway.

It's more like a problem trusting you, yourself, to make decisions that won't put you back in the same old situation.

here's a quote or a title for u all love once lose nothing love twice lose nothing but the first give it another go and ur a fuching dumbace it life live it lump copy right wut ever it life get out there people... FOR REAL