I'm not here for dating, so I don't know.

Odd thing about drama.

The people that I deal with on a daily basis at work are nothing more than kids just out of high school ( who's maturity level never got beyond 1st grade ) who are all about drama.

They try to involve me in it by telling me the whole he said/she said crap.

And they are ALWAYS surprised when I say " Since your issues don't effect my life in any way other than having to listen to you complain, my ' Give a Sh*t ' level is currently down around the bottom of my shoe. "

Yeah I know. I was directing this more towards those who are. :-)

Whether or not you are here for dating, you can still answer the question. It's pretty simple actually.

You either trust in your ability to make a good decision, or you don't.

I think the point was missed on my comment. I used that quote from a movie because it was demonstrating that love is NOT intended to be perfect. It is about risk taking and what happens happens. So yes, I might question my own judgment at times as it relates to my choices in men and dating and relationships, who doesnt? I still will make these decisions. I will not allow fear of the unknown to preclude me from taking a new chance on someone else. . .

I don't know if I agree with you. Regardless of being on a dating site or not, I am still making the ultimate decision. I would be very uncomfortable not having control of a decision that impacts my life so much. Now, if I was involved with a dating service that chose my dates for me, I could understand that I might not trust my own decisions. Really, there are a few reasons that I chose to be on a dating site. First, I'm not a "bar guy" and don't really like to go pick up girls at the local clubs...it's just not me. Second, I on a site like this I get a lot more exposure to a lot of different people that I normally would never meet or get to talk with. Third, chances are the women that are on a dating site like this have at least some of the same reasons for being here (don't like bars, etc....). The worst that can happen is that I have some good conversation/opinions, make some new friends, and don't get a DUI on the way home.

it seems like people join these sites when just getting out of a bad relationship. i am a testament to that.

mingle: home of the disavowed lover.

Ive noticed that also. Several men that have approached me seem to be on the "re-bound" That alone, is a red light.

I like this guys reasoning. XD

In a quandry at the topic, because I do not look at my past realtionships as bad or good. I look at them as a lesson in defining what I wish to have in a relationship, in making an optimistic future.

Well, I haven't made good decisions in the past about who to try to date, so apparently I'm not capable of it, either. I've known full well I had no business with them, but I did it anyway. So to answer your question, no I do not trust myself to make a good decision on that matter. Hence, I'm not dating anymore. But thanks for clearing that up for me.

LOL, yeah most men don't like gossip, I think that's more of a woman thing.

Untrue men gossip as much if not more than women