Hey guys!

Okay, so I made the huge mistake of falling for someone about 3 months after my husband and I separated. He had moved on, but I was still claiming I would remain single. Just have friends with benefits. You know how THAT goes. I was pursued by a man about 3 months ago. Told him I did NOT want anything serious, yet he kept pushing and pushing.

Everything was great for a while, we finished each other sentences, had EVERYTHING in common, it was ridiculous really! I know he's always been a semi-depressed person, but as time went by, it didn't get better. Last week, I told him to get his things and get out of my house. He reluctantly did, because he is one of those people who do not know HOW to fight for anything they love or care for.

Now, here's the dilemma. He has left a LOT of valuable AND sentimental items in my garage. He went out of town and just kept driving he claims, when he left my place, and keeps telling me he will come get his things, but never does. When he WAS texting me, it was still negative and depressing, but I kind of got the vibe he still wanted to be with me, because he was telling me he loved me, and misses me, and how it's sooo hard without me, but when I would reply and he didn't like what I would have to say, he would go days ignoring me.

Anyways, I have pled with him to come get his things, because I don't want to be moving on with my life and all of the sudden he pops back up and all these emotions get carried away, ya know? I've offered to take his things somewhere, get with his mother to get them, or something, but he insists HE wants to get them, what should I do? Any advice? Wonder why he is acting like this?

Stringing me along because he knows I will still be here? Or don't want to let go? EEK!

I think it might be a control thing, an excuse to wait and show up when you have everything going and throw a wrench in it, or to see how long you'll hold on...I wish I could advise you on what to do with the stuff I would say go ahead and give it to his mother if you can....

garage sale

Thanks, that's the same thing I have been getting so far, it's a 'control' thing.

lmao, that's classic. Certainly up for consideration.

pack his stuff up and drop it off at mom's as soon as possible.. leagally you may be responsible for his things other wise... and then lose his number all together .. you are right about one thing if he wanted to be in that relationship he would of fought for it.. he ran instead... and you should do the same as fast as you can there ore plenty of sincere people out there.. I know...

Load everything up and take it to his mothers. Dennis

Lighter fluid and matchs work wonders,

If you are truly finished with the relationship and he insists on getting the stuff himself, simply place the items in boxes or black plastic bags and place them in a discreet spot on the porch or around the corner of the garage where he can get to them, tell him through a text where the stuff is and if he cares about the stuff he will be picking it up fairly soon... Tough spot to be in.... Good luck..

No, not legally responsible for anything. I have been through this with a roommate before. Just want the control thing to stop. BTW, He won't tell me his mother's address. LOL...I know the vicinity she lives in, but not the house number. Should I neatly box and bag it up, and put it outside my home?

I think I will do just this! Thanks!!

put your foot down, give him an ultimatum

pick up your things on saturday such and such a date or I will donate them to Goodwill

Guess I'll say publically.....you joined here on Flag Day!!!! Cool....I'll say if you have no intentions of "getting back" with this guy, take ALL his stuff. Neatly packed, in as few containers as possible, and in one load (very important) take his stuff to his mother's house and stack it outside somewhere. That way he doesn't have to come to YOUR house for anything!

Then call her and tell her what it is. Then just break contact. His mother will tell him where his stuff is.

Sell his stuff on EBAY, then he will pick it up quick.

If they are truly valubale items, tell him he's got a week, then they are going to the pawn shop. You'll send half the money if you have to go to the trouble of selling them. Give him a date to come and get them and then cut off all comunication. If you're done with him, be that, done with him. Don't be worrying about him, that just plays into his hands.