love is the hardest thing to find.sex is any where any time at any price. sex can be learned and practiced till improved. sex with love to back it -priceless.

dam Max that was deep now i want to go charge some sex on my Visa

Ummm...I know I might be the only guy that can actually admit this, but love, obviously.

I still can't understand how people can have bad sex, expecially routinely bad sex.

Obviously, there's a stimulation factor that is being overlooked, or simply not present, here.

If I were in this predicament, I would have to ask myself several questions.

such as....

What am I comparing this sex to, that makes it bad?

Is it by comparison to previous sexual partners and experiences?

How is the physical act of sex with them more stimulating?

Do I have an unrealistic, or ideal, expectation of sex that is not being met?

Could it be that I am inhibited by the idea of having sex with this person?

I think you would agree, the excitement you get from the idea of having sex with 'this' person is more stimulating than the physical act of having sex. The physical stimulating is just reinforcing the overall stimulating of sex. It's the supporting role.

How in the world can you be in love with someone and have bad sex?

Can you be in love with someone and not be excited about the idea of having sex with them?

My answer is no, so .....



my response is... DNE, or does not exist.

By my perception, there will never be such a situation. If you are having bad sex with a person, you aren't in love with them. (This does not mean that sex with the person you love will only be great, but to precieve sex with them as bad, is to say you did not 'enjoy' it at all )

Still, as I said in the beginning, I can't see how people can have bad sex at all. Unless, these people feel duty-bound, like it's a chore or something (like a prostitue would.. male or female I imagine).

BONE-UP on your skills...

Perhaps it is YOU that is "lacking"!!

Just sayin'...

I have to clarify this statement



What I meant to say was...

I still can't understand how people can have bad sex, expecially routinely bad sex, when their 'intent' is to have good sex.

The only exception being, your first time.

when I made this statement...

...I was thinking of my first time.

I don't know about most people in here, but my first time was a serious let down, considering all the hype. I focused too much on the physical, there was no longer an idea in my head to be excited about. It was 4 hours long, bad sex.

he's gotta be willing to learn and try things...

I want the whole package..

um whole package as in sex, love.. all that stuff.... to settle with someone

not 'his' package.. well.. yeah.. i would want that too..

Very good answer Megz. And also work on it, help them, show them what you like.

I think sex is important so I would end it...........

Perhaps you jist' don't "fit" together, physically... but sex can be great anyway if you communicate the issues and work together to improve them.

I'd like to include that a man that loves you, typically, will try to please you.(just as we do). Perhaps this man is not in love with you.