Well to show how dedicated I am to not being online.. I will go for a marathon at 24 hours...

And he doesn't know how to socialize as a result of it. If it's not artificial stimulation, he doesn't want any of it. He shuns playing with his real friends for playing a fantasy game online. He knows people by screen names and the "race" of their characters instead of as John, Kevin, Freddy, and Vince from down the street.



When I was 12, I was out interacting with people. I knew more people from the neighborhood than most kids. If I wasn't closely acquainted with them, I at least knew them from being around. Regardless of the time of year, it's just about impossible to get him out of the house without some sort of bribe.

Instead of getting with a group of kids his age and having snowball fights (which we now have more than enough snow for), he'd rather stay inside and talk with a bunch of faceless creatures about killing an ogre that's terrorizing the village, and then do nothing about it.

If he gets herpes later in life because he was "too friendly" then it's his own damn fault for not screening his partners better. If he ends up with a kid, then it's his and his mate's fault for not practicing safe sex. Hell, I'm the only one in my family, who's old enough to responsibly procreate, that hasn't. All of my cousins (except one) are married with kids. The single one doesn't believe in monogamy and got his from a drunken one night stand. My older brother has one because he wasn't careful enough, and my little sister has three because she doesn't seem to know what birth control is (even though it's been pounded in to her skull since she was 10), or how to say "no".

People, like dogs, that are not socialized at an early age, and continue that face-to-face interaction, are more likely to lead jacked up lives down the road. If your dog doesn't meet other humans, or even other animals, they can go nuts when someone/another animal gets anywhere near close to them. Same thing happens to human beings. If they aren't social, they tend to get very withdrawn and awkward around others.

Besides, what healthy 12 year old boy isn't obsessed with having a "girlfriend?" It's perfectly natural as the hormones begin to take over more of his "rational thinking" to turn towards girls, or at least something sexual on some level.

OG

Why do you think that your 12 yr. old brother needs a gf?

That's young, IMO.

I agree that children that are on the computer too long do lose social skills just like the ones that watch too much TV.
They also don't get enough exercise in either case.

And he doesn't know how to socialize as a result of it. If it's not artificial stimulation, he doesn't want any of it. He shuns playing with his real friends for playing a fantasy game online. He knows people by screen names and the "race" of their characters instead of as John, Kevin, Freddy, and Vince from down the street.



When I was 12, I was out interacting with people. I knew more people from the neighborhood than most kids. If I wasn't closely acquainted with them, I at least knew them from being around. Regardless of the time of year, it's just about impossible to get him out of the house without some sort of bribe.

Instead of getting with a group of kids his age and having snowball fights (which we now have more than enough snow for), he'd rather stay inside and talk with a bunch of faceless creatures about killing an ogre that's terrorizing the village, and then do nothing about it.

If he gets herpes later in life because he was "too friendly" then it's his own damn fault for not screening his partners better. If he ends up with a kid, then it's his and his mate's fault for not practicing safe sex. Hell, I'm the only one in my family, who's old enough to responsibly procreate, that hasn't. All of my cousins (except one) are married with kids. The single one doesn't believe in monogamy and got his from a drunken one night stand. My older brother has one because he wasn't careful enough, and my little sister has three because she doesn't seem to know what birth control is (even though it's been pounded in to her skull since she was 10), or how to say "no".

People, like dogs, that are not socialized at an early age, and continue that face-to-face interaction, are more likely to lead jacked up lives down the road. If your dog doesn't meet other humans, or even other animals, they can go nuts when someone/another animal gets anywhere near close to them. Same thing happens to human beings. If they aren't social, they tend to get very withdrawn and awkward around others.

Besides, what healthy 12 year old boy isn't obsessed with having a "girlfriend?" It's perfectly natural as the hormones begin to take over more of his "rational thinking" to turn towards girls, or at least something sexual on some level.

OG

well, i think that the internet has addiction 2 me

I'm not addicted. I can stop anytime I want. I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM!

After days, months, years of you telling him hes a loser and needs to go get a girl cant you see the possibility of him trying to prove himself to his big brother and getting into a situation with a girl that he is not ready for and possibly ending up like your other siblings or worse?

Run on sentences are fun.

The 11 and 12 year old boys at my child's school don't have girlfriends. The 12 year old boy next door to me doesn't either. He's always playing football.

11 and 12 is too young IMO. They should be playing sports and doing schoolwork and playing with their friends.

You!

They might not have girlfriends, which isn't as important as I might have made it sound when I first responded on this thread, but at least they're learning the importance of interacting with others their own age, in person. They will be more socially adjusted as adults than the ones that spend all day online playing video games.

OG

OG could you be a dear and put up a pic of yourself one of these days?
i'm curious what this self professed ladies man and "hot sexy intellectual" according to your profile, looks like

OG could you be a dear and put up a pic of yourself one of these days?
i'm curious what this self professed ladies man and "hot sexy intellectual" according to your profile, looks like

I was listening to NPR news in the car. They were talking about internet addiction.

They said that if a person spends more then 4 hours a day on the computer, they are addicted.

Does anybody think that they might have this problem?

What can be done differently for your brother? Can your parents enroll him into a sport?

He tried getting in to La Crosse, but the kids were "too rough" for him. He tried fencing only to see that it was "too strict" for him. He loves pro wrestling (I'm partly to blame for that), and I've tried getting him in to freestyle wrestling, Judo, and Sambo, but he's just a lazy spectator who prefers to have life pass him by.

I'd work some of my magick on him if I could actually get his attention. Unfortunately, hypnosis isn't effective if you can't get someone's attention first.

OG

He tried getting in to La Crosse, but the kids were "too rough" for him. He tried fencing only to see that it was "too strict" for him. He loves pro wrestling (I'm partly to blame for that), and I've tried getting him in to freestyle wrestling, Judo, and Sambo, but he's just a lazy spectator who prefers to have life pass him by.

I'd work some of my magick on him if I could actually get his attention. Unfortunately, hypnosis isn't effective if you can't get someone's attention first.

I'm outta here for the night. Talk with y'all tomorrow.

OG

Whatever happened to plain old baseball, basketball, and soccer?

Isn't it your parents responsibility to be enrolling him into these sports and not yours? I'm just asking because it sounds like your raising him and not your parents.