Phil just ask us... its ok most of us are more than willing to lead some advice. And if you send me an email I would be more than happy to answer some more questions about online dating.

Its great that you are out there trying... but don't like disappointment get in down!

just pull her pigtails and run

if she chases you then she likes you

in my neighborhood, she'll chase you just to beat you down!

Ask her right now!!!!!
Don't wait another second

...and what are you waiting for, an invitation?

Ask right away. First thing.
What's the worst that will happen?
You'll get a reputation as wanting to date.
What's your mile-limit, for dating? That's where you draw the line, but ask anyone, all the time.
Go for it.

I'm waiting

M. Michigan, I wouldn't say yes with only communicating with emails. I need phone time too.

Opps, didn't know he was asking you out Winx.

personally, i'd prefer NOT to talk on the phone first.

what if the date was REALLY bad and then the person had your number and called repeatedly, harassing you? what if they were able to find out where you lived from your phone number?

i'd rather just arrange to meet in a very public place (after LOTS of cam chats to ensure that the person wasn't at least misrepresenting how they looked). in fact, i would rather them not even walk me to my car afterward (for the first few dates anyway) to avoid seeing my plates. yep, i don't mind admitting to being a bit paranoid; my safety is paramount.

i'm a gal who also likes to be the one doing the asking out; that way it doesn't happen before i'm ready (but i think i'm more of an oddity in that regard).

Everyone has there limits ,boundaries whatever . I know the reason I hesitate or put off asking is the plain old fear of rejections . But I have an answer to that . I will never ever go on a date if I never ever ask . At the very least you will see a movie or have a nice night out . Dinner ,some kind of cultural event . Any experience is valuable if you gain enjoyment , or pleasure from it .
A road trip or a concert , find a common interest and go to it . I find that in most cases things work out . As long as communication is open.
Good luck and keep the quest alive .

I agree paper. Good safety tips. Im the same way and always insist on a public meeting and arriving in separate vehicles. I have not met anyone face to face from this site yet but its kind of in the works now. If someone refuses any of these initial precautions or insists that I do something I am uncomfortable with, I wont meet. There wont be exceptions made.

Hi Smile, my first responses are in jest, really.
In reality, if a woman wants to talk on ph. I give her my number, and suggest to her she let someone know where she is meeting me, and to bring her cell too. I understand its a bit more risky for the women meeting someone from online.
Most cell numbers do not have an address connected to them. I don't expect a woman that I am meeting online to have me pick her up at her home, but rather to meet me. And for a first meet, I always suggest a short afternoon coffee meet and greet instead of a long evening.
Its kinda goofy for guys too.

I didnt mean to imply that there is no element of risk for the males with an internet meeting. No. Its just that normally women have more to be worried about as it relates to their physical well being. Men tend to have more control in that arena though there are always exceptions to the rule. I have heard of males being lured and tricked but generally these incidents involved other males and theft. Not as much kidnappings and assault.

oh i figured that; the multiple exclamation points after your post sort of gave it away.

i was just giving the opposite opinion of winx, who said she preferred to talk on the phone before meeting. (poor guys; it's too bad all us women can't be consistent huh? )

I would prefer to speak with someone on the phone several times before meeting. It is an entirely different interface and requires them to "think on their feet" so to speak when they engage you in conversation. I would agree with Winx on that one. But everyone is different in that respect.

It just comes down to being safe and I dont even think the OP was addressing that issue anyway. It tends to be higher on the female list of important factors when considering a face to face meeting.