I understand the needing to let go and don't. We don't always do what is best for us. Keep busy hope the void is filled. They can call and there goes your heart. My favorite is I never intentionally have hurt anyone. And your so sad and want it to be the way you thought it was. Allot of us relate to this.

You really need to let go of this guy. He is charming you to get out of paying his child support. Make that appointment with the lawyer and keep it. Besides trying to keep busy, see if your health coverage will pay for some kind of professional therapy(I know that has a bad vibe to it but it can and does help)

Oh dear...almost the same thing happened to me many years ago with my ex husband. I told my friend that if she could put up with him all the best to them both. Them two were together until he passed away in 2004. Her and I are still best friends today.

I truly appreciate all you guys voicing your opinion. I am trying very hard to move on. I been getting therpy for a while even before you starting seeing her. I got therpy about he told me he wanted a divorce. And, we were even able to talk to one other. We used to get together. Now when I look back, I see that he really was just using me. And, I also look back and see how my (ex) husband and "best friend" were acting, and was probley together then. I am trying my best to act happy and act like nothing wrong. But, my feeling show right though, I not as bubbley or talkive as I use to be. I just don't have anything to say. I am friendly and profeesional at work. But, people can tell the differents in my atitude. He normally pays me my child support around the first of the month. But, he didn't pay me until the end of the week and he knows I have to pay my rent. I am overdrawn, broken.

I glad I found you guys, just please keep your comments coming I look forward to reading them, and they really do help, and some or funny. This site is good. And, I appreciate you guys listening to me wining. I know it sounds and I probley are feeling sorry for myself. And, I that that. I don't want to feel sorry for myself. I want to feel better, but the saddest is so overwhelding. I have gone out with a few guys from the dating sites, and they just didn't work out. They took me out to eat, and that all I heard of them, not that I would have gone out with them again anyway. But, I makes me think I just not desireable. And, I probley not. I not asking for anything but friendship. Alot judge you on looks, and I know I not no princess, but, I do have a big heart, and a great personility.

The guys that I have went out with, have been okay, and they were friendly none of them, really tryed to get fresh with me. But, when I get home, I am alone again. And back to square one. I would like to have a man in my life. But, I don't know if I will ever find one.

Hi Lovestoride,

Don't rush into anything. You don't need a rebound relationship. Try to get your thoughts together before looking for that one good person. You need to be over your ex and put that world behind you, so that you can look to the future. Live for the now, not the past.

It takes time. Get to know people here. Make friends. People will eventually get to know you and you will get to know them. A good relationship is worth waiting for. It takes patience. You have found a place here where you don't have to be alone. I've found it really helps.

the only one it hurts to have these feelings is you

did she have a relationship with him b4 you separated

if not whats the big deal

if they are happy cool

if not and they make each other miserable even better

but you dwelling on it only effects you