Revenge never satisfies, and it has a bad habit of turning on you. You both have seperate lives now, try to keep it that way. As for you former best friend, well she wasn't much of a friend any way. Don't let it get in the way of your job performance.

as the others have said..best revenge is to live well..good luck

What best friend? Friends don't do that to other friends, obviously this selfish person had no consideration for your feelings. What did she think, it would be ok with you? Personally I wouldn't be friends with someone that shallow,if you are still going to see and talk to her at work...keep to business only. Your best revenge will be to live happy!

We know very little what is really going on here, but have you every thought that your so-called best friend was involved with him before your divorce? Just a thought is all. Most important thing is for you to take care of you! If you start to hate them then you’re the one that’s going to suffer.

Move on!

Sorry what your friend did -- that sucks. Revenge gets us nowhere; me personally, I wouldn't stoop that low and/or take a cheap shot at anyone -- not part of my nature. I wouldn't give anyone that satisfaction. I'd pretend I was happy and cool -- that usually pisses people off who think they are pulling something over on me. I know it's hard and easy for me to say; but you like me, do not live well with hurting people even though they might deserve it. What goes around, comes around. They probably deserve each other. Move on honey from both of them. Good luck.

If it's over it's over. Shouldn't matter who he sees. You should move on with your life and not look back. Revenge is childish..don't put yourself on that level. You can never move on if you dwell in the past.

If a relationship breaks up there is incompatibility somewhere there. Learn from it and move on.

This is not meant as harsh so please don't take it that way.

So what yah thinking with all that has been said. Hope your doing Okay :)

Can't help but to be human, small twinges of jealousy and regrets that it didn't work out? Just keep smiling (even though your heart is breaking),put on a good show that your "so-called friends" dating your ex doesn't bother you.......and it really shouldn't. Walk on, don't look back, hold your head up high and remember "SMILE"

yes, I do

Good Evening LTR!!!!

I have thought about it, and when I think back, I know they were probley together. It easy to say to "act happy" and harder to do. My ex-husband and her have no consious, and don't care whether they hurt me or not, that why I want to get over this hurt feeling. I tell you what I did yesterday. He had not paid me the child support he is order to give me, he normally gives it to me between the 1st and 5th the first of each month. I did not fight him about anything in our divorce. I was so upset over them betraying me like they did, I call my lawyer up to tell him, I wanted to see if I could get his check garnish, and I also, wanted to tell the lawyer some more stuff, that I won't go into on here, but, you know, I called him today while I was at work and ask him very nicely when was he planning on paying me, because he is due around the 1st of each month. He said, he would bring it by today. But, he was so sweet and so sincere, I just wanted to cry right then and there. I didn't say anything else to him, but thank you and good bye. It made me so sad to hear his voice and know he already with another woman (that I have to see her everyday), that just makes it worse. She trying to be nice to me, and wants to help me with my daughter graduation invitations, and I can't believe she thinks I going to let her help me do anything. My ex-mother in law (his mother)called me and told me, that he and her are going to her mother's house for christmas. That hurt. I don't know how to act happy about this, it shows in my atitude and eyes. I so love him!

But, what I was going to say was I called the lawyer I had a appointment with and canceled it, because my ex was so nice and kind to me. And, I thought I can't do this "I love him" now I know yall are going to think I am strange but, I can't let go. And, I know I have too. What it going to take, can you tell me that.

The only thing I can tell you is time is going help. Just remember you are better than they are. Keep your chin up and don't let on that you are hurting. I have been there and know that achy feeling. Send yourself some flowers to your work have them delivered on Monday so you can look at them all week. Don't tell anyone who sent them, let them wonder. I took a class after I had the break up, it keep me busy and got me out. Go to local craft store and see what kind of classes they have or your local community college. Don't just set there, the more you set at home the more you will feel sorry for yourself. You deserve better than him.

thank you that is a good idea

Lovetoride I am going to speak to you from personal experience. Do you have someone, anyone else to lean on? Then lean on them, use the forums if you have to. The road is so much longer when you travel it alone! You have to give yourself time to grieve, you can't know all the answers right now and your mind is working 100mph trying to figure it out. From what you have said he has made his choice and you are still loving the man you thought he was. You need to focus on your child, because their world is about to change. And the best thing you can do is take care of his/her mother. If you can take a bit of a breather from the situation, get away for a couple of days, a week, you need to regroup your thoughts. I needed to take a few day off work, I couldn't think. Time alone heals nothing.....it's what you do with that time that will make the difference. I hope this has helped you in some small way.

I think that us women have all been there at some time, and horsegirl is right. Take a class or join a social group to help get your mind off of this situation. My ex told me he could never love anyone but me, six months later he was living with the lady who owned property next to us. That hurt! But I took classes and surrounded myself with friends(I wasn't allowed to have friends when I was married), joined a gym, and just kept myself busy. We're here for you, vent if you have to. Time heals.

I know exactly what you are going thru and I dont have an answer for you because I dont have an answer for myself.....Its been 2 years for me and she can still wrap me around her finger but I have noticed lately that she cant wrap me quite as tight......Most folks dont understand that you can see your X for what they really are and sometimes it just doesnt matter......Good Luck

Hang in there dear lady.
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, you need to do what works for you.
In time you will work it out & figure where you want to go.
we will support you in whatever you chose, whether we agree or not.

"We all march to the tune of a different drummer."

Follow your drummer & to he!! with what others think.