I went to court last month to get my sons father to pay child support and he got off scott free of any responsibilty. It makes me sick to know that he has a lot of money in the bank, but he went and got a minimum wage job so he will have to pay the bare minimal. I'm literally sick right now.

The government does nothing to help struggling mothers. I mean in terms of making the man take responsibility for their actions.

I wish I could move out of this country.

I feel your pain on that one girl...

When I was younger, my mom got the CA court system to have my dad pay 2k in child support everymonth. =/ I think its all about what state your in, can you get an appeal? (Its been so long since any of this took place. lol I dont remember. . .)

Aww Kitten, I bet he thought you'd never ask though.

I'm sorry for Austin.

If your married its different. Since me and my sons father was not, and I was getting assistance from the state it's different.

I just don't understand this federal standard. It boggles my mind. If I can do one thing in my life, maybe I can try to get legislation to change the laws.

I'm sorry for him too. Thanks.

The sad part is you shouldn't have to go to court to get him to "MAN" up. He should want to support his child. Stuff like that burns me up

my ex wife's prior husband went to jail for his back child support

she decided that she didnt need it any more and the children were grown and wanted to forgive it

The court said no. That wasn't her choice and they hit him $60,000 in back child support and forced him to pay

but that was in New Mexico

He is ordered to pay the back child support. But it goes to the state since I was getting assistance.

But they ordered him to pay me even less than what I was getting from the state(which wasn't a lot anyhow 190 bucks a month). The state wants their money back, they don't care about me and my son. He pays me 177 a month, wow that pays for my diapers and wipes a month. doesn't help with childcare, food, clothes for my son.

they wernt married, but yeah she wasnt on government care either... :/ the government is ****ed up. lol move to france :P Free healthcare and government pays for peoples needs if they need it.

by the new fed standard....make him produce 2yrs of tax returns.....he is what they call underemployed....also min guidlines cannot be 0 unless he has th child over 50 % or you both agree......I have my kids 9months a year.....and the x still gets paid...I Dont complain...havin the kids is worth it to me.

Here in Florida one of Jeb Bushs brilliant ideas was to privatize CSEA..You send them a check and they hold it for 30 days till they disperse it. HMMMM that's a lot of money sitting and drawing interest instead of going directly to the mother or father.

dont get me started on that one..I think most of you know how i feel about this issue...I dont understand what stick the government has up their a$$'s that they are not on the ball for this..I got a letter from child support the other day stating they have now just served my kids dad..I filed 8 months ago..They now just served him...But I dont see the child support office employees sending me any of their money to help my kids..Just wait wait wait..By the time I see anything, I will be dead and buried

dhs cares not about kids

they care about money

child support makes them the same amount
no matter how much is ordered to pay

i have a friend who's x owes 10s of thousands of dollars

but was never on govt assistance

so the bureau of support does nothing

where is the justice in that

their taxes pay their wages as well

Sorry you all are in the same boat I was for many years with a deadbeat Ex. Especilly if you have to resort to Public Assistance. That is an absolute dead end for sure.

I found co-oping with other single Mom's for babysitting helped. I could earn quite a bit taking the kids once every fourth weekend and going in and cleaning or doing chores for seniors or disabled. Just taking elderly people shopping in their own car saved me on my car expenses. I would take a backpack and do paperwork or sewing while I was waiting at their Doctors office. I just wrote my name, phone, and a list of chores I could do on large index cards and took them to various minister's and doctor's. Seemed I had people on a waiting list all the time.

I didn't bother trying to collect from my Ex. I knew he would weddle out of it any way fair or foul so didn't consider it worth the expense and time I would invest. I was better off not being pissed off about it all the time. Kids really pick up on the negative vibe.

I have heard that some agencies and smaller law firms are starting to collect for Mother's on a commission basis plus filing fees. They are particularly good at fileing against property and seizeing it then selling it. Collecting tax returns. Putting leins on stuff. Yanking licenses. Even collecting medical debts and insurace benifits. If you learn how to do it it is not a bad business to get in yourself.

I don't know if you would want to do it but sometimes you can shame them into paying by posting their non-payment record publiclly. I know some gals that went together and bought a billboard and posted pictures and how many $'s the jerks hadn't paid. The public boycott of their business made them pay up pretty fast.

I wish someone computer savy would put up a website that posted that info on people. At least any new prospect in your life you could check out before you get involved. You know if they will do it to theirs; they will do it to yours.

me too !

My mom was a deadbeat mom who owed my dad 1000's in money. She moved to a state that didn't share custody agreements so she wouldn't have to pay.

For those of you who think 'marraige is just a piece of paper', or 'we don't need a piece of paper to make our love real, meaningful or acceptable to society' may want to re-think that. It can make a big difference in how you can support your children after a parent leaves the relationship.
The state of Michigan looks at the last two yrs of tax returns and your last 4 paychecks.
For me. %30 right of the top, I pay it to the state, and they send it along to the ex. Comes right out of my paycheck. I like it that way, if there is every a problem, its not mine.