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or will humans slowly turn into a bunch of hermits sitting around talking through machines and rarely going anywhere but to work and the store?
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I didn't know there was life outside the serial box...
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I vote for the hermit thing....know a lot of ppl who already do that...and wonder why they don't have dates??????
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 Does not compute
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Hang on, i need to change shells real quick
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Naaa...but when you are hanging out in your jammies and doing laundry on a work night, at least you can socialize here. I think that's a step up from being a hermit :)
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hey gal, you doin good?
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Good thanks...except for terrible impatience re: a new job I'm hoping for!
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I had never ever been on any forum prior to late January of 2007. My 26 year old son died at the beginning of January and I was not doing well one night. I had signed up for a couple of dating sites the summer of 2007 but had never been to the forums. I was deleting information off my computer and deleting some emails...I noted that I had an email from another site, so I just clicked to see what it said. I accidentally hit the forum button instead of another button at the top of the page. I was curious so I started to read a couple of posts...and in my horrible frame of mind, I posted about what had just happened to me and that I just could not see living... a couple of people (Matthew and Donna) instantly emailed me...they spent the night with me and showed me around the site. they really did save my life in a way... last year, I spent lots of time on the site...I made lots of great friends and met with about 65 of them... it gave me a safe place to spend time and gave me an outlet for my unbearable pain. it helped me...it helped me stay in the now... a few of the people I met will be life time friends...I have been to their homes, met their families...and some have been to mine. My daughter got to meet someone who joked around with her just her brother did and felt the love of a "brother" again...and I got to feel the hug of a man whom I love like a son...what a gift!! I was not looking for dating much...however, I did meet a couple of men from the site for dating...no real love match there, still friends... I talked to a few people almost daily by the phone...and then one of them...some silly ass truckdriver (I love you Darrel) and I started talking everyday on the phone...we became very close friends... I had never met Darrel in person, so I tried to set him up with several of my friends...then he came to MI to a small party we had over the 4th of July...he is still here...we are still best of friends, only now we have our love and friendship. So, while "this" internet is not as big in my life...it is and always will be very special to me for all the reasons I spoke of. You never know when someone is just reading posts and gaining some great advice that is given. You never really know that something you "say" (write) will make some small difference in someone's life. It did mine. I know that lots of people "know" each other in the forums...some outside the forums as well...I think it is a great way to get to know people... I used to post a lot and that is how many people got to know me...love me, hate me..whatever. It is a form of communication and if people communicate open and honestly in multiple ways...then I think it is a valuable experience. I personally, do not go to bars very often. I do not live where there are a lot of people...I like to be around my home...so this lets me interact with people on some level. I also got scammed pretty good once and learned very quickly about the internet. A person has to be careful and cautious yes. The forums are a great place to communicate with many many people...about a virtual plethora of subjects...I learned a lot in the last 22 months... I think one of the most important things I learned is that my heart can feel joy again... I apologize for the very very long post..those that know me, know I can tend to run on... 
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I had never ever been on any forum prior to late January of 2007. My 26 year old son died at the beginning of January and I was not doing well one night. I had signed up for a couple of dating sites the summer of 2007 but had never been to the forums. I was deleting information off my computer and deleting some emails...I noted that I had an email from another site, so I just clicked to see what it said. I accidentally hit the forum button instead of another button at the top of the page. I was curious so I started to read a couple of posts...and in my horrible frame of mind, I posted about what had just happened to me and that I just could not see living... a couple of people (Matthew and Donna) instantly emailed me...they spent the night with me and showed me around the site. they really did save my life in a way... last year, I spent lots of time on the site...I made lots of great friends and met with about 65 of them... it gave me a safe place to spend time and gave me an outlet for my unbearable pain. it helped me...it helped me stay in the now... a few of the people I met will be life time friends...I have been to their homes, met their families...and some have been to mine. My daughter got to meet someone who joked around with her just her brother did and felt the love of a "brother" again...and I got to feel the hug of a man whom I love like a son...what a gift!! I was not looking for dating much...however, I did meet a couple of men from the site for dating...no real love match there, still friends... I talked to a few people almost daily by the phone...and then one of them...some silly ass truckdriver (I love you Darrel) and I started talking everyday on the phone...we became very close friends... I had never met Darrel in person, so I tried to set him up with several of my friends...then he came to MI to a small party we had over the 4th of July...he is still here...we are still best of friends, only now we have our love and friendship. So, while "this" internet is not as big in my life...it is and always will be very special to me for all the reasons I spoke of. You never know when someone is just reading posts and gaining some great advice that is given. You never really know that something you "say" (write) will make some small difference in someone's life. It did mine. I know that lots of people "know" each other in the forums...some outside the forums as well...I think it is a great way to get to know people... I used to post a lot and that is how many people got to know me...love me, hate me..whatever. It is a form of communication and if people communicate open and honestly in multiple ways...then I think it is a valuable experience. I personally, do not go to bars very often. I do not live where there are a lot of people...I like to be around my home...so this lets me interact with people on some level. I also got scammed pretty good once and learned very quickly about the internet. A person has to be careful and cautious yes. The forums are a great place to communicate with many many people...about a virtual plethora of subjects...I learned a lot in the last 22 months... I think one of the most important things I learned is that my heart can feel joy again... I apologize for the very very long post..those that know me, know I can tend to run on...
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Lighthouselover,
Thank you for sharing that. That is a great story to tell.
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I had never ever been on any forum prior to late January of 2007. My 26 year old son died at the beginning of January and I was not doing well one night. I had signed up for a couple of dating sites the summer of 2007 but had never been to the forums. I was deleting information off my computer and deleting some emails...I noted that I had an email from another site, so I just clicked to see what it said. I accidentally hit the forum button instead of another button at the top of the page. I was curious so I started to read a couple of posts...and in my horrible frame of mind, I posted about what had just happened to me and that I just could not see living... a couple of people (Matthew and Donna) instantly emailed me...they spent the night with me and showed me around the site. they really did save my life in a way... last year, I spent lots of time on the site...I made lots of great friends and met with about 65 of them... it gave me a safe place to spend time and gave me an outlet for my unbearable pain. it helped me...it helped me stay in the now... a few of the people I met will be life time friends...I have been to their homes, met their families...and some have been to mine. My daughter got to meet someone who joked around with her just her brother did and felt the love of a "brother" again...and I got to feel the hug of a man whom I love like a son...what a gift!! I was not looking for dating much...however, I did meet a couple of men from the site for dating...no real love match there, still friends... I talked to a few people almost daily by the phone...and then one of them...some silly ass truckdriver (I love you Darrel) and I started talking everyday on the phone...we became very close friends... I had never met Darrel in person, so I tried to set him up with several of my friends...then he came to MI to a small party we had over the 4th of July...he is still here...we are still best of friends, only now we have our love and friendship. So, while "this" internet is not as big in my life...it is and always will be very special to me for all the reasons I spoke of. You never know when someone is just reading posts and gaining some great advice that is given. You never really know that something you "say" (write) will make some small difference in someone's life. It did mine. I know that lots of people "know" each other in the forums...some outside the forums as well...I think it is a great way to get to know people... I used to post a lot and that is how many people got to know me...love me, hate me..whatever. It is a form of communication and if people communicate open and honestly in multiple ways...then I think it is a valuable experience. I personally, do not go to bars very often. I do not live where there are a lot of people...I like to be around my home...so this lets me interact with people on some level. I also got scammed pretty good once and learned very quickly about the internet. A person has to be careful and cautious yes. The forums are a great place to communicate with many many people...about a virtual plethora of subjects...I learned a lot in the last 22 months... I think one of the most important things I learned is that my heart can feel joy again... I apologize for the very very long post..those that know me, know I can tend to run on...
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Edited by
lighthouselover
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Mon 12/01/08 06:54 PM
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Lighthouselover, Thank you for sharing that. That is a great story to tell.
Thank you. and thank you Mikey and Rose and Gypsy! I tell the story because of the question in the post... much of the time, I just log and read now...I generally am doing other things while I am logged in...yet, I like to check the recent posts and read what people have to say. Families used to be situated reasonably close together...as I get older, I do not have many of my very close friends near me...so the forums give me some contact outside of myself! Thank God for that,eh?
I know that I was on the site way too much probably...kind of like spending everyday with a person's best friend... I think the forums can be a wonderful place and serve a great purpose...it does NOT however, take the place of human contact in person... |
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No, I don't think so. I think it a form of socializing in addition to the traditional, in person kind.
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Hugs to Lighthouselover.
Wow....that was a long post worth reading. |
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im not a hermit or a hobbit...Ima wood elf and someday I will get lost in the trees...
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Lighthouse, I loved your post!! I read more than I post too. I do post when I feel I have info to share that will help in some way. Always the Mom! Thanks for the smile and the tear!!
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Lighthouse, I loved your post!! I read more than I post too. I do post when I feel I have info to share that will help in some way. Always the Mom! Thanks for the smile and the tear!! I also seem to end up as a thread stopper....why does that happen? that is another reason I often don't post. |
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Nope, I just posted after you.
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