Ok, so my ex-husband died this past July in a tragic work accident. He at the time had a girlfriend and a 3 year old little boy. We just got our divorce last November. He has a daughter that is 14 that he adored, and me and her mom became really close when Zowie(the daughter) was very little.

Anyhow, I was told i could apply for his SSI, but didn't because I want the children to have the benefits. But I found out today that his girlfriend at the time filed for it for herself claiming they were together for 10 or so years. She is also getting it for the little boy. I was contacted by Zowies mom and told this. Zowie, his daughter isn't getting benefits right now because of something the girlfriend did. I'm really disgusted by her actions.

Should I go down to Social security tomorrow and rat her out? I have my divorce papers to prove that they haven't been together for the time she says and I have my marriage license.

What would you do? Did I make any sense? lol

Honestly? I would that is a VERY low thing to do. And I am sure that is SSI found out that she lied like that, they would make her pay it back. Go for it, I wish you all the luck, you are right it is the children that deserves the benefits.

If I were in your place, I would go down there with the papers to prove she lied! That is jmo!! I would go! Good luck!

I don't think that SSI will cover an ex spouse. If he died while he was legally still married to someone it would cover that. Whether she was with him for years or not shouldn't matter if they weren't legally married. You should absolutly apply for it for your child. They will split it among all of his children.

Tell the truth. The truth is always better. Let her live with her lies.

I think I would

especially if her actions are preventing the daughter from receiving benefits that are due to her

His "girlfriend at the time" is entitled to no benefits. If that makes you feel better

All of his children if proven before his death are entitled to his SSI. Only his current spouse is entitled to it.

SSI likes to fight people, tell Zowie's mom to reapply for it, they can't deny her.

I have read all about it, and it will cover an ex depending on the length of the marriage. But I don't want it. I want both his children to benefit, but his girlfriend is a greedy woman and is taking a cut for herself. She is taking away from his child!!

Rat her out! What she's doing is reprehensible. And illegal.

As long as a couple WERE married for at least 10 years, that spouse is entitled to SSI benefits of a deceased ex-spouse.

It is unkind and unfair of the other lady to lie. Any benefits should be shared appropriately for the sake of ANY CHILD who warrants benefits. I would rat the person out.

What a terrible position to be in, but really, what choice do you have??? We're talking about making sure children are taken care of.

Absolutley....this ain't about you or "her"...ya just gotta do what is best for the child. Ain't no Ratting Out about it.

Well that makes her a low down greedy b!tch. However... I would go down to the support office and apply for support for your son. Take your marriage and divorce papers with you. I am almost positive that you would have to have been legally married to get benefits. So his ex- girlfriend should get what she deserves... NOTHING.

If you were married at the time of the accident, you are, by law, entitled to SSI death benefits. But if the divorce was already final at the time of his death, you are not entitled to SSI death benefits.

His children however, no matter what, are entitled and rightly so.

Problem is, should Social Security learn that you knew of her deception, you could be held accountable if they chose to pursue it. Sticky situation in either case.

SSI death benefits do not cover partners that are not married, so when she goes to file for herself, they will likely tell her that up front.

Regardless, she is planning a deception with grave consequences. I would (if the two of you are on speaking terms) advise her that what she is planning to do is a federal offense and as such, she would be held accountable. If she's not filed yet, no harm done. But when you file the application, you sign it, under penalty of perjury that you are telling the truth to the best of your knowledge.

What you choose to do, ethically, morally, or legally, is of course entirely up to you and whatever decision you make, you ultimately have to live with.

She is already recieving the SSI for herself because she lied to them. Like I stated before, I don't want any money. Daniel and I were married in 1998 and were divorced in 2007. She told SSI that they were together for 10 or so years. She is a fraud and a lyer. I'm taking my papers down there tomorrow, that girl deserves nothing.

My sister was married to her ex husband for 15 yrs and they had been divorce for 5 yrs when he passed away suddenly and she gets SSI for her and their daughter.

Anyways, I would be down there first thing in the morning telling SSI that she is not telling the truth and that only the children need the SSI. She is being greedy and it will all come back on her. I hope that she has to pay it all back to the Government.

If you KNOW that she is receiving benefits based on her deception, which is taking away from his children, turn her ass in. She deserves NOTHING.

Don't know if that's True. I believe SSI has a set amount for each Dependant., not a Total Amount available. His Children should get the Same amount whether SSI is paying You or not.

good for you.
do you think she deliberated over it as much before she decided to defraud the government and a fatherless child?
always tell the truth. always.

go.his children can get benefits despite her lies.All you need is proof he's the Dad.I would turn the ***** in.Have the girlfriend you are close too go with you so her child gets whats coming to her also.A girlfriend is entitled to chit .