I just got an email from an older lady on my myspace asking me out to a party next week and I need advise on how to politely say no, not interested. She's got twenty years on me. This is not the first time she's asked me out somewhere either. I usually pull the can't find a babysitter excuse but it doesn't seem to be working.

A year ago, I did go with her to this same party as friends. She needed a ride. We hung out, got drunk, and danced some. We both had a good time and that was that. Problem is, she's asked me to dinner, a sushi bar, a beauty pageant, and a few other places since then & now wants me to go to this party again with her. I've run out of excuses.

I need to let her down nicely, since I do work for her business sometimes. Her daughter's around my age & a babe, but unfortunately she's engaged. Nothing against older, but you have to draw the line somewhere.

Any advise?!?!?!?!?

tell her you have a g/f...that should work...

How about the truth? That you prefer to date in your own age range ...

...and failing that, you could always use the 'visitors coming from the mainland' excuse ...

is she loaded? if so i'll take her off your hands

That wouldn't fly over here since everyone knows everyone. I could make up a story like that, but every time I see her I'd have to lie again. I've turned her down already quite a few times, you'd think she'd get it by now!

The truth may work wonders...but, hey? What do I know? *burb*

I've hinted at that before, didn't seem to work. I think I need to be more clear this time; just not sure how to say it without hurting her feelings. I'm not good at this stuff LOL

well I think there is only one other thing you can do!!!






















Kill her!!!! That will be that...Problem solved

I aint intereted in you,never have been,never will be.your to old for me.

She owns a small retail shop & a house but I wouldn't say loaded.
...that would solve my problem if you went with her

Ummm..HINT!!! "Hinting" just sucks...it skirts around the issue.

Just be HONEST, with a smidgen of compassion, ok? How about this?...

"You are a lovely lady, with many intriguing qualities...HOWEVER....

blah, blah, blah....you make me wanna puke...blah, blah, blah...you make me want to slash my wrists...blah, blah, blah....care for a bleach cocktail...blah, blah, blah..."

Just kidding.... .... kinda!

Find your own truths...and use your own words...and spill it. If you do it effectively, combined with any sense of compassion...trust me! She WILL get the message.

It would seem that you will have to be direct.

how old are we talkin? send me a pic

First, she may really just be asking for the company. She knows you two had a good time previously and might just think you'd be fun to hang with once in a while.

Whatever the case, you gotta tell her the truth. You can say "Hey, I really think you're a nice lady, and I don't mind going to the party as a friend, but I'm just not interested in dating you." And, you can always leave out the part about going to the party with her... I was just thinking it would show her that you don't dislike her.

should I just copy & paste this in my reply to her? It is truly what I'd like to say!

I wrote nearly the same thing ... minus the slashing wrists and such ... but you hit send before I did ...

I just think ya need to be honest bro

tell her you aint interested her,never will be

Or, send her a couple of those scary emails.. the ones that you have to stare at and then the scary face jumps out at you. It'll give her a coronary and you can be done with her.

Thanks; that's good advise & probably how I'll go about handling this.

I love the one with baby that one is awesome

I need to find that one again