Topic: Is flirting on a dating site cheating?
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Wed 11/26/08 04:42 PM

To put this really simple.
I have always summed up Cheating as something I would have a problem doing in front of an S/O. So therefore if you would act this way in front of them then no problem.
I do have one question for you tho. "A Couple of boyfriends" Sweety I think I would be more worried about them finding out in the real world.

Okay I just read more of what you have written you state You don't date just one guy.. So therefore there is no problem you are not exclusive with anyone. Now your reputation might be another thing all together and since you didn't ask that question I will keep my opinion to myself.

Good luck

My reputation as you mentioned is that I am a woman who likes to travel and meet new people and I dont mind having more than one boyfriend. The men know that and I am too young to date exclusively one guy. How can I find the right man if I dont put myself out there and date men?

Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?

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Wed 11/26/08 04:45 PM
i wasnt judging you i just thought that if you have a few boyfriends here n there, why would you worry about flirting with other men .!!flowerforyou :wink:

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Wed 11/26/08 04:47 PM

If you are seeing someone and you find out that person is carrying on an online flirting relationship with some other person 500 miles away is that cheating? If your dating partner doesnt get sexual but just keeps the flirting to the forums does that make a difference in whether or not its cheating? If cows could fly would you have to scrape cottage cheese off your car after parking under a tree?

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All right Im going to add more to this op question.
I travel a lot and I have a couple of boyfriends that are far away. We met in person while I was traveling not on a dating site. I am curious if I flirt with guys on mingle forums if my boyfriends might get offended. Should I tell them I an here? I am afraid they would make an account and start drama. Is online forum flirting even real?


I don't need to read the other responses. Yeah, it's cheating. JMO

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Wed 11/26/08 04:51 PM

i wasnt judging you i just thought that if you have a few boyfriends here n there, why would you worry about flirting with other men .!!flowerforyou :wink:

I was curious with what men thought when their girlfriends flirt on dating forums. Not worried per say. See, my boyfriends know I see the other men only when I travel. If I am flirting online then I can be "with" the other men a lot more often. I wonder if I told my boyfriends if they might try to sign up for this place and crash my party.

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Wed 11/26/08 04:53 PM


i wasnt judging you i just thought that if you have a few boyfriends here n there, why would you worry about flirting with other men .!!flowerforyou :wink:

I was curious with what men thought when their girlfriends flirt on dating forums. Not worried per say. See, my boyfriends know I see the other men only when I travel. If I am flirting online then I can be "with" the other men a lot more often. I wonder if I told my boyfriends if they might try to sign up for this place and crash my party.
dont tell yur boyfriends about this site tell yur gf's.!!! laugh laugh laugh laugh :wink:

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Wed 11/26/08 04:54 PM


To put this really simple.
I have always summed up Cheating as something I would have a problem doing in front of an S/O. So therefore if you would act this way in front of them then no problem.
I do have one question for you tho. "A Couple of boyfriends" Sweety I think I would be more worried about them finding out in the real world.

Okay I just read more of what you have written you state You don't date just one guy.. So therefore there is no problem you are not exclusive with anyone. Now your reputation might be another thing all together and since you didn't ask that question I will keep my opinion to myself.

Good luck

My reputation as you mentioned is that I am a woman who likes to travel and meet new people and I dont mind having more than one boyfriend. The men know that and I am too young to date exclusively one guy. How can I find the right man if I dont put myself out there and date men?

Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?


Again, I don't think it's cheating, but it's an awefully slippery slope. Here's some questions that might put things into perspective;

(1)Would you consider either of your boyfriends to be cheating on you if they were flirting online with others?

(2)They know that you're not dating either of them exclusively. Is there an understanding between yourself and them that they are supposed to know about your other partners?

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Wed 11/26/08 04:55 PM



If you are seeing someone and you find out that person is carrying on an online flirting relationship with some other person 500 miles away is that cheating? If your dating partner doesnt get sexual but just keeps the flirting to the forums does that make a difference in whether or not its cheating? If cows could fly would you have to scrape cottage cheese off your car after parking under a tree?

==============================part 2

All right Im going to add more to this op question.
I travel a lot and I have a couple of boyfriends that are far away. We met in person while I was traveling not on a dating site. I am curious if I flirt with guys on mingle forums if my boyfriends might get offended. Should I tell them I an here? I am afraid they would make an account and start drama. Is online forum flirting even real?


Boyfriends?laugh Good luck with that
shadow i picked up that soon as i read thread.!!!thought it was just me .!!laugh laugh laugh


She is young and she will learn, but maybe the hard way.ohwell


Not giving the OP a hard time, but what do you really expect being your age and what ever boyfriends actually mean. 2, 3, 6? Yeah there is nothing wrong in having fun, but if your worried about any of them knowing your on here flirting? isn't that you starting to feel guilty and if so. why do it?

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Wed 11/26/08 04:57 PM



To put this really simple.
I have always summed up Cheating as something I would have a problem doing in front of an S/O. So therefore if you would act this way in front of them then no problem.
I do have one question for you tho. "A Couple of boyfriends" Sweety I think I would be more worried about them finding out in the real world.

Okay I just read more of what you have written you state You don't date just one guy.. So therefore there is no problem you are not exclusive with anyone. Now your reputation might be another thing all together and since you didn't ask that question I will keep my opinion to myself.

Good luck

My reputation as you mentioned is that I am a woman who likes to travel and meet new people and I dont mind having more than one boyfriend. The men know that and I am too young to date exclusively one guy. How can I find the right man if I dont put myself out there and date men?

Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?


Again, I don't think it's cheating, but it's an awefully slippery slope. Here's some questions that might put things into perspective;

(1)Would you consider either of your boyfriends to be cheating on you if they were flirting online with others?

(2)They know that you're not dating either of them exclusively. Is there an understanding between yourself and them that they are supposed to know about your other partners?


1=no
2= no, they know I see others but they dont know who they are or how many. To me they are men that I have fun with when I travel to their city. They know the deal but this online thing is new so I was just curious of what goes on in mens head so thats why I asked the OP question.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:02 PM
Edited by krupa on Wed 11/26/08 05:05 PM




Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?




Look me up when your in Texas!

Flirting is not cheating.....flirting is simply a form of socializing.Some people are outgoing flirt...others are not. C'est le vie.

For me, I am happily taken...but, I always have been and always will be a complete flirt. I know where my love and loyalty lay.

If the person is looking with passion into the eyes of another and you believe you are mutually exclusive...that is cheating....so is everything that comes after it. If it is well known from the start of a relationship....it is not cheating..just a part of the package.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:03 PM




To put this really simple.
I have always summed up Cheating as something I would have a problem doing in front of an S/O. So therefore if you would act this way in front of them then no problem.
I do have one question for you tho. "A Couple of boyfriends" Sweety I think I would be more worried about them finding out in the real world.

Okay I just read more of what you have written you state You don't date just one guy.. So therefore there is no problem you are not exclusive with anyone. Now your reputation might be another thing all together and since you didn't ask that question I will keep my opinion to myself.

Good luck

My reputation as you mentioned is that I am a woman who likes to travel and meet new people and I dont mind having more than one boyfriend. The men know that and I am too young to date exclusively one guy. How can I find the right man if I dont put myself out there and date men?

Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?


Again, I don't think it's cheating, but it's an awefully slippery slope. Here's some questions that might put things into perspective;

(1)Would you consider either of your boyfriends to be cheating on you if they were flirting online with others?

(2)They know that you're not dating either of them exclusively. Is there an understanding between yourself and them that they are supposed to know about your other partners?


1=no
2= no, they know I see others but they dont know who they are or how many. To me they are men that I have fun with when I travel to their city. They know the deal but this online thing is new so I was just curious of what goes on in mens head so thats why I asked the OP question.


I doubt this is going to be a popular answer in here, but I see no issues with any online flirting (in your case). Again, it's not the type of relationship that would work for me. But the point is whether or not it works for you. I say you're free to flirt...have fun, and good luck!

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Wed 11/26/08 05:05 PM
Edited by Stacy1987 on Wed 11/26/08 05:06 PM
double post. I erased this one

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Wed 11/26/08 05:05 PM
No, no guilt. Not at all. I will save my guilt for that special man. Im just trying to not be mean to the guys (responding to Shadows post) and I think people are over analyzing my OP question. You cant read me on the basis of this thread and trying just makes you look awkward in my eyes.

Ive read these forums and other dating site forums for a few months and I have noticed that many people try to over analyze others. Youre not therapist and even if you were you could not judge people on the basis of some forum post.

Youre the second or third person to say I am feeling guilty and youre as wrong as the others. Saying it doesnt make it true.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:07 PM
She has a point.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:09 PM
alls i know is i would be jealous knowin yur showin all the guys that sweet smile.!!!drinker :wink: i know dont quit my day job.!!!laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 11/26/08 05:14 PM

alls i know is i would be jealous knowin yur showin all the guys that sweet smile.!!!drinker :wink: i know dont quit my day job.!!!laugh laugh laugh

Are you a flirting with me? blushing blushing I know what some say because I have more than one boyfriend but I dont care and the guys Im dating dont care as long as they know the deal. I do want to tell them Im on this forum just to be fair but then they would sign up and that would get weird. Maybe I wont tell them.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:15 PM


alls i know is i would be jealous knowin yur showin all the guys that sweet smile.!!!drinker :wink: i know dont quit my day job.!!!laugh laugh laugh

Are you a flirting with me? blushing blushing I know what some say because I have more than one boyfriend but I dont care and the guys Im dating dont care as long as they know the deal. I do want to tell them Im on this forum just to be fair but then they would sign up and that would get weird. Maybe I wont tell them.
ooops.!!!!blushing blushing blushing

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Wed 11/26/08 05:15 PM
Edited by TheShadow on Wed 11/26/08 05:16 PM
So, you don't feel guilty, you know where you stand, and you honest about your life where your going and what you might be looking for right? But yet you have to hide things from one. What is that saying?


People that are comfortable in there own skin don't need to hide from anyone or anything at all. Just a thought.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:17 PM
IF you are in an exclusive relationship then I would say yes, it is. If not, then have at it.

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Wed 11/26/08 05:18 PM


To put this really simple.
I have always summed up Cheating as something I would have a problem doing in front of an S/O. So therefore if you would act this way in front of them then no problem.
I do have one question for you tho. "A Couple of boyfriends" Sweety I think I would be more worried about them finding out in the real world.

Okay I just read more of what you have written you state You don't date just one guy.. So therefore there is no problem you are not exclusive with anyone. Now your reputation might be another thing all together and since you didn't ask that question I will keep my opinion to myself.

Good luck

It's ok to date different men....but I would leave the title boyfriendS off. makes you look like a you know what

My reputation as you mentioned is that I am a woman who likes to travel and meet new people and I dont mind having more than one boyfriend. The men know that and I am too young to date exclusively one guy. How can I find the right man if I dont put myself out there and date men?

Airline pilots and stewardesses have multiple boy friends and girl friends in different cities so why cant I?

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Wed 11/26/08 05:25 PM
oops I shouldn't make you search for my comment you already have enough on your plate

It's ok to date different men....but I would leave the title boyfriendS off. makes you look like a you know what