to love my daughters pot smoking bisexual boyfriend.

after all people can change.

and if he can start impressing me with his knowledge I may invite him over for supper. (if it appears he can carry on a intellectual conversation and use lots and lots of BIG words)

Sounds more like you gave up

how old are these kids?

they are 12.

ive been battling this for a year now.

i havent given up...im just trying a different approach.

if he wants ME to like him. then he will start studying, quit smoking pot (which my daugter is already always yelling at him about) and impress us both. im gonna be his life coach

besides hes not bi anymore...he was just curious. my little angel changed his whole life.

my daughter is a virgin. this i know. she is quite proud of the fact. she gets joy in saying it and telling people.

OF COURSE..some of her friends ARENT

Bi? Did he tell you this? Did you catch him doing something? Im just curious how you can say a 12 yr old is bi and not straight or gay for that matter.

my daughter told me. he let another guy suck his thingy a few years ago.
but she turned him around...in sixth grade he met her and alls he wants is to spend the rest of his life with her. he will do anything.

per him and my daughter

Ok good thing he was just bi. I think it would be harder to "turn around" a 12 yr old gay kid. Sorry I got to No disrespect intended

its okay. i find the boy a bit amusing too. but mostly it makes me nauseated. i sense hes got some serious problems though.

im at a loss, so now alls i can do is accept him, start taking him seriously, and see what happens. i guess

Wowsers...

Well, your daughter talks to you, shares with you, and is open. That is great.

Does he bring drugs into your home? Expose them to your daughter?

Pot at 12, are you kidding? I don't know what to say - my daughter is only 6, but I'm guessing that when she's 12 I will NOT be cool with sex OR drugs for her or around her.

heck no. hes not been allowed in my home.
and my daughter is totally against drugs.

she actually put me on the phone with him last week to tell him he needed to quit smoking pot.
she wanted me to tell him how dangerous it was.

at this point in her life she is very against drug use. and she does have friends that do them.

12

interesting

sounds like his parents need informed

and if he is detained while with you

you may be implicated
as contributing to the delinquency of a minor

i would be very concerned if i was you

and permitting illegal activity could lead to childrens diservices removing your duaghter


this need to pursued not slid to the back and forgotten

they are children

you are the adult

and bi how did he discover that are they also sexually active

did she change that in him (you said he is no longer bi didn't you)

need a serious reconsideration here

at 12 this will help to form type of life she may lead as she grows into adulthood

i dont want these things around my daughter either.
shes growing up. shes not 6 anymore. this crap is out there. i THINK she has a decent head on her shoulders...but this boy she LOVES...i dont think he does.

i pay out my azz to send her to one of the best PUBLIC schools in my neighborhood.

hes not been in my home. for the past year i have refused to ACKNOWLEDGE their 'relationship'
I have talked to his mother.
It did not do any good...becasue shortly after speaking with her she decided to SUPPORT the relationship..and attempt to allow me to let my daughter go on a 'date' with her son..while her and her husband were there. movies and dinner.
that was last summer, i got to be the "bad" guy and refused to let them go.

but still this relationship exists.

they dont even go to the same jr high school this year. havent seen eachother in a very long time, although they talk on the phone all the time.
Ive tried to stop the realtionship, but it persists.

im not allowing POT in my home. i told the kid he would end up in jail and be a loser his whole life if he kept up this crap. my daughter told him to. she thinks becasue she LOVES him, he needs to quit for her.

i just want rid of the guy. honestly.

he used to like boys and girls.
now he just likes my daughter.

his mysapace name is "i want to be with her the rest of my life"

i know this is serious. ive been taking it seriously. mainly by not "allowing" the relationship.

but it exists. and alls i can think of now is to accept it, support THEM....and invite him for supper.

maybe shes only liking him because she knows i cant stand him

Sounds like you are offering him a different view of life.
I think offering people different views of life, is part of our task in life.
He is making his choices as to what to think & what style of life to pursue.

Good for you.

thanks

like mother, like daughter.
i used to think i could save everybody. help everyone.

im smart enough to knows all I can really do is talk, and if somebody REALLY does listen, and are a better person for knowing me, then I did alright.

Im more concerned about the INFLUENCE he will leave on my child though. so if i can improve his attitude then in a roundabout way Im helping my kid. who knows