I was dating a guy for four months. His job and family life really took up a lot of his time. I only get to see him once a week and it usually ends up being about sex. He tells me he loves me and that its more than that. We have never been on a real date yet and i just found out last week that he didnt even know my last name. He's really sweet and we have awesome chemistry but can someone tell me if im wasting my time or is this normal and im overthinking? plz help. has the red flags gone up?

honestly doesn't sound like a good start,i'd move on

sit down and talk to him about mutual goals, and see if your lives are headed in the same direction.

Uhhhhhhh whats your name again???

Ok from my experience......guys who are interested in you not only know your last name but when your birthday is....what flowers you like, you fave colour, the perfume you wear, they want to know EVERYTHING about you.

Dump the losa!!!

from a guys look. you are dealing with a player. he only once one think. if that its what you want......run, run now. this want get any better

He doesn't know your last name but he loves you??? I would question that one...could just be me tho.

I agree with Gypsy, he's full of poo.. time to move on...

lol howd he get you to sleep with him if he hasnt even taken you out on one date omg lol srry but u asked

Is he married? It doesn't look good- esp if he has never taken you on a date, and doesn't know your last name, girl you deserve better!!!!!!

move on.another mooch,another pointless relationship thats not gonna go no where.dont settle

I would definitely talk with him about your feelings and not assume the worst till you know for sure where he stands .............communicate , communicate ! is all I got to say !!!

He is married or already has a girl friend ,check is phone when he is sleeping ,he sounds like a buddy of mine who is a player ,sorry

yea i cant help but feel its not totally anyones fault :(

hows that for making sense - i know its a double negative

Wait a month before you have sex next time.If he is still around after a month he is interested in more than sex.

he is legally seperated from his wife. trust with his ex is not an issue for us. but he is still techanically married to her. I know hes not a player because trust me when he has time to talk he usually calls me from his job or i call his job. I have talked to him several times about my feelings and he reassures me that the love is there. he says i just have to wait it out. he's been working like crazy trying to open his own restaurant. it opens friday. i just dont know if even then he'll make time for me. we havent been on an "official date" but we have hung out a couple times. I guess what i really want to know is should i wait it out or cut the cord now before i get in any deeper?

You're definitely wasting your time, he's lying his butt off and taking what he can. Find someone who wants to actually be with you. Life is too short for users.

Seriously sista!!! Youre just a lay!!!

WHAT???? TOO HONEST????

No kidding. As much as it may hurt, as much as you want to believe he's telling you the truth, he's not. If a man wants to spend time with you, he will find the time. If he's already had you in bed and not on a date, he will never take you out. You asked for honesty, and here it is... like it or not.

You asked for red flags, well you've got them screaming at you. Listen to them and respect yourself. You deserve more, and won't get it from this guy. He's all talk.

Do you know his last name?

LOL