OK I know I am a bit naive at times but even I can see through this one.

For example if you are in the process of divorce you don't start a new business. Have you been there???? For that matter how many of his friends or family members have you met in 4 months.

Family comes before the new lady yeah right every man I have ever dated in teh beginning put me first. Then it kind of tapered off when reality bit us both in the butt.

You stated in your own words you are dating but then you state you have never been on an actual date, that stumps me.
What you have just described to me is nothing more than a F*k buddy you don't even rate as a FWB since I dont' see where you are getting any benefits.
I Personally am worth more than what you have accepted.
The other question I have if you have been in this relationship for months why join a dating site.????

Go with the gut, it is usually right. If he never takes you out in public, only calls from work and never invites you over he is either still married or a player. Been there, done that..... sorry, it's hard to hear and go through...

I wanted to meet new people. I have only a toe left in the door with him. i dont get a chance to go out that often and i wanted to network outside of my workplace