This board is like a runaway train wreck ...it goes too fast for people or there wouldn't be such negativity. I wonder how many would actually share with other in their real lives what they say & do here? In any case...I thought this might raise the bar that is so needed.

Maybe a discussion about anger & frustration is in order along with it's consequences. This is what God's word says....

Cooler Heads

READ: Proverbs 17:22-28
A man of understanding is of a calm spirit. —Proverbs 17:27

A Christian I know was angry with someone at his workplace over a perceived injustice. A colleague listened to his grievance and sensed that his temper still ran high. He gave him this wise advice to consider before confronting those involved: “Cooler heads prevail.”

As we interact with others, disagreements are inevitable. The discerning believer understands his own heart and takes steps to deal with conflict diplomatically.

Proverbs 17:27 tells us: “He who has knowledge spares his words.” This means keeping in check a multitude of opinions that could ignite further anger in others. Someone who displays wisdom will think before speaking, and then will share only insights likely to be helpful.

The Proverbs also give us wise counsel on the emotional side of controlling our frustrations. “A man of understanding is of a calm spirit.” A mature person exhibits understanding by keeping cool in conflict. Problem-solving is enhanced by an even-tempered approach.

The next time you become angry, stop and prayerfully reflect for a moment. Ask God for a calm spirit and the right words to say.

Remember, cooler heads prevail. — Dennis Fisher

For Further Study
It’s important to handle anger in constructive ways.
Visit www.discoveryseries.org/cb942 on the Web
and read When Anger Burns.


The best time to stop an argument is before it starts.

http://www.rbc.org/odb/odb.shtml

And non-believers do not?

Why can't it just be people should do this?

There seems to be a tendency to say believers good non-believers bad.

Is that what it really said?????

Yup, exactly

No, actually, it doesn't say that.

What is says is "The discerning believer understands his own heart and takes steps to deal with conflict diplomatically", it makes no reference to what the non-believers understand.

Just look where this is coming from.
Have you ever read her posts?
If she would live what she is preaching here the forums would be way more peaceful.

Maybe, but there are many non-Christians here who could benefit from this advice too.

I'm absolutely sure there are.
but before I post something like the OP here, I have to think about my own behavior first, amend it if necessary, and then I can go about criticizing.