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Topic: How are a-holes better than nice guys?
FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 11/13/08 12:02 PM
The next asshole I go out with, I'm putting something in there. I swear.... Buttplug...for those hard to reach areas.

simplelife123 Joined Tue 11/04/08 Posts: 128	Thu 11/13/08 12:02 PM
Why is it "f---ing insecure BS" because a woman expect her spouse to prioritize family over a job and be present in extreamly significant family times? Expects a grown man to meet the majority of his own needs and share in the responsibility of the needs of children. Expect a lover and not a stud service. If a guy is cheating behind her back and you know it why don't you tell her? Yeeessshhh! Ok maybe we are misunderstanding here.There needs to be a balance of work and family and family is obviously the priority.In my situation I did everything I could to make things work and although I worked allot of hours to pay for everything I was there for my family and wife during both births.It was a catch 22 I had nobody to fall back on it was just me supporting everything so if I didn't do the hours we go without or not make it at all.Every situation is different.And No if I knew a female friends husband or BF was cheating for sure I would open my mouth instantly.I went through that MY kids,my friends and certain family members knew my wife was cheating and said nothing so yeah I would definitely say something.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 11/13/08 12:03 PM
9. They don't whine about being nice guys. Haha, this is hands down the best reason by far. Thank you. I didn't mean to be harsh just honest. EVERY I do mean every man that has told me come on I am a nice guy turned out to be a bigger A$$ that the so called A$$holes. Now if a man tells me that they are a nice guy well I run. I actually think I would prefer a mixture. Since I know I am also a mixture.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 11/13/08 12:03 PM
zZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ IM SO BORED WITH THIS TOPIC!!!! CAN WE KILL IT??? BEFORE I TURN INTO AN AZZZZZZZZZHOLE???

OpenWounds Joined Wed 08/06/08 Posts: 335	Thu 11/13/08 12:04 PM
y'know what? I'm done with this a-hole/nice guy argument. I'm not either. I'm just me. If you dont like me, you can shove it. If you do like me, then that's great, lets be friends. I'm not making any special effort to fall into any particular camp, and i dont think i'm single because i dont treat women like crap. If you're trying to attract girls that like bad guys, and you're a good guy, then maybe you need to re-think a few things. Quit complaining about it. Be yourself and shut the hell up.

cottonelle Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 3594	Thu 11/13/08 12:06 PM
The next asshole I go out with, I'm putting something in there. I swear.... thats kinky http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5crAoWnN1EI

simplelife123 Joined Tue 11/04/08 Posts: 128	Thu 11/13/08 12:06 PM
I agree with openwounds people should just be themselves.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Thu 11/13/08 12:06 PM
There are rare instances where a 19 year old guy is responsible and loving husband and father but the reality is it is often that they finish growing up while they father yet another child so that overwhelms and even younger and less prepared wife who has to work to help support the family and do the majority of household work. That men stick around for twenty years usually is for the desire to raise their own kids and not because they continue to have a loving and motivateing relationship. A relationship that is cold and whatever for twenty years has two selfish stubborn people who punish themselves for not correcting the mess. I agree with some of that.I personally tried to fix the relationship numerous times and was shot down. It was damned if I did and damned if I didn't. I was willing to work on any problem except for the cheating BS.That I didn't want to deal with. ^5 ^5 ^5 Good For you then! I have said this time and again. There is NO EXCUSE for cheating regardless of how unsatisfactory a relationship is. You want someone else then eat crow, pay your dues, and divorce the marriage. There is no such thing as "kind of" married or "kind of" divorced anymore than there is a kind of pregnant. Either you are; or you are not; and if you are honor your word. You don't; you have every expectation to be abandoned. If you find your partner cheating ONCE, face facts, and get the hell out of the marriage as unretreavably betrayed. Once a cheat...always a cheat.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 11/13/08 12:06 PM
y'know what? I'm done with this a-hole/nice guy argument. I'm not either. I'm just me. If you dont like me, you can shove it. If you do like me, then that's great, lets be friends. I'm not making any special effort to fall into any particular camp, and i dont think i'm single because i dont treat women like crap. If you're trying to attract girls that like bad guys, and you're a good guy, then maybe you need to re-think a few things. Quit complaining about it. Be yourself and shut the hell up. HIGH 5 BRUTHA!!!!!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 11/13/08 12:14 PM


lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 11/13/08 12:14 PM
Ohh Cottonelle.... I'm kinky. I squeeze the Charmin. Mr. Whipple begs me not to, but I do it anyhow, with exaggerated facial expressions. Jealous?

OpenWounds Joined Wed 08/06/08 Posts: 335	Thu 11/13/08 12:15 PM
Ohh Cottonelle.... I'm kinky. I squeeze the Charmin. Mr. Whipple begs me not to, but I do it anyhow, with exaggerated facial expressions. Jealous? Whaaaaaaaaaaat

jamieann Joined Mon 03/17/08 Posts: 47	Thu 11/13/08 12:16 PM
Assholes might just do it to get laid but at least they show up so you are not alone on your birthday. except sometimes they break up with you on your birthday!!! yes, true story!

cottonelle Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 3594	Thu 11/13/08 12:20 PM
Ohh Cottonelle.... I'm kinky. I squeeze the Charmin. Mr. Whipple begs me not to, but I do it anyhow, with exaggerated facial expressions. Jealous? can i watch?

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Thu 11/13/08 12:21 PM
If you read back through the thread you will learn that a woman's perception of the relationship is Key. Assholes are deceptive and too often nice guys overlook what they did not contributeing to a relationship and whine a lot about it later rather than recognize they were not so reasonable. I agree 100% that there are Good guys who get hooked up in lopsided arrangements with women who have totally unrealistic expectations. HOWEVER the ones that tolerate it for years and then expect everyone to be sympathetic that they threw their own lives away are wasteing their breath. Get over it and don't blame every woman for the ignorance or selfishness of the woman YOU picked.

OpenWounds Joined Wed 08/06/08 Posts: 335	Thu 11/13/08 12:23 PM
If you read back through the thread you will learn that a woman's perception of the relationship is Key. Assholes are deceptive and too often nice guys overlook what they did not contributeing to a relationship and whine a lot about it later rather than recognize they were not so reasonable. I agree 100% that there are Good guys who get hooked up in lopsided arrangements with women who have totally unrealistic expectations. HOWEVER the ones that tolerate it for years and then expect everyone to be sympathetic that they threw their own lives away are wasteing their breath. Get over it and don't blame every woman for the ignorance or selfishness of the woman YOU picked. Amen. Every time i hear the 'nice guy' crap, it's always for someone blaming the female gender for his problems.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 11/13/08 12:23 PM
Ohh Cottonelle.... I'm kinky. I squeeze the Charmin. Mr. Whipple begs me not to, but I do it anyhow, with exaggerated facial expressions. Jealous? can i watch? Oh yes, come join me in the travel pod and McFly will take us back to 1971. Openwounds, catch up....

OpenWounds Joined Wed 08/06/08 Posts: 335	Thu 11/13/08 12:28 PM
Ohh Cottonelle.... I'm kinky. I squeeze the Charmin. Mr. Whipple begs me not to, but I do it anyhow, with exaggerated facial expressions. Jealous? can i watch? Oh yes, come join me in the travel pod and McFly will take us back to 1971. Openwounds, catch up.... I dont wanna... it sounds scary and confusing...

simplelife123 Joined Tue 11/04/08 Posts: 128	Fri 11/14/08 05:06 PM Edited by simplelife123 on Fri 11/14/08 05:13 PM
If you read back through the thread you will learn that a woman's perception of the relationship is Key. Assholes are deceptive and too often nice guys overlook what they did not contributeing to a relationship and whine a lot about it later rather than recognize they were not so reasonable. I agree 100% that there are Good guys who get hooked up in lopsided arrangements with women who have totally unrealistic expectations. HOWEVER the ones that tolerate it for years and then expect everyone to be sympathetic that they threw their own lives away are wasteing their breath. Get over it and don't blame every woman for the ignorance or selfishness of the woman YOU picked. OUCH!! Really not looking for sympathy and I don't blame All woman because I know not all woman are the same and that there are good decent woman out there.Anyway hearing many points of view is helping.

3oh3 Joined Sun 11/09/08 Posts: 593	Fri 11/14/08 06:17 PM
In the thread, we list why a-holes are better than nice guys. 1. They're crazy and unpredictable 2. They're fun and exciting 3. Spontaneous 4. Aren't afraid of speaking their mind 5. Cocky 6. Confident 7. Decisive 8. Stand out in a crowd 9... 9. They don't whine about being nice guys. BA-ZING!