So.

I doubt this is a very common problem.

I am completely unable to let go completely of any interest in a girl that I've ever had in my entire life. For example, I still occasionally think about my first girlfriend, the first girl I believed I was in love with, the crush I had on a girl in 3rd grade.

Basically, if I have a feeling it never disappears. Keep in mind these thoughts only come occasionally, and I completely stop them from interfering with my daily life or current relationships. But I have to pose the question to myself (and everyone else now), why?

The only thing I'm able to guess could be the culprit is the terrible thing of my memory. I don't forget details about things that are important to me. I remember the full name, phone number, birthday, and pretty much anything else about every girl I've ever dated. I remember how the days felt. I can watch most of my times with these people as if it were a movie in my head.

Anyone else have this problem? Any solutions? Comments? Who else is hungry?

once in awhile i am reminded by memory of people i have felt strongly about, sure...*nods*
and yep, cook some breakfast..whatcha got??

Are you reminded about every single person you've ever been interested in? The first girl i ever had a crush on was amanda. it was kindergarden. the second was jessica D, in first grade. I can do this all day. Amanda had very light brown hair. she usually wore darker colored clothes. Jessica had blond hair. she almost always wore something white or light colors.


I got a craving for sausage or something myself... I don't think i have any here and I'm not making a trip to the store at almost 3am.

I had that exact same problem with the girl I was dating when I was 15 till I was 17. And when I was 24 I made contact with her, and the feelings I use to have for those 7y. disappeared...

wait. thats not true. the first one was named april. I was 3, in preschool.

When I randomly come across one of these sometime in the future of the initial interest, I find the feelings are unchanged.

Well I believe that in all situations of the heart that it depends on who you are as a person. Like myself I too had trouble letting go of women in my past, I feel it is the men that have the ability to have compassion for people and not want them to hurt and it makes it difficult to let go....maybe a relationship Stockholm Syndrome....lol. Even some issues of just thinking to yourself...I wonder what she would have done if she was here or certain characteristics you may miss that the person you are with now isnt or cant give you. I dont think you are unique or broken...I think a lot of men experience it but there are so few men that discuss how they feel about things...

I went through this when I was 18-20. My first love........we brokeup. I cried for 2 years straight......thought up sorts of scenarios to get him back etc..........

he got married and had kids.......

hmmmmmmmmmm wow........we change so much in our 20-40 years..........relax dontdoit!!!

Ninja, just because you remember someone fondly or just remember them does not mean that you have not let go. I don't have very many exes, but I remember them. That doesn't mean I haven't let them go. There is no way to forget that someone was in your life, whether it ended badly or not. I would be worried if someone did forget something like that.

well, mrright101, I know I'm broken. But in this case I know that isn't the issue. The problem is a lack of being broken.

I'm curious as to how many people remember crushes they had prior to being 10.


I'm really not looking forward to being 40. In theory, my collection of memories and reminders will have doubled.

hahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa geeeeeeeeeeezus!!!!

HEY YOU!!!




YA YOU!!!

IF YOURE LUCKY??? WE MAY LET YOU LIVE TO 40~~~!!!!

Luck tis a matter of perspective.

not being able to let go, and having good memory retention are two different things.

you've said that your recollections are not getting in the way of your life and that you are only occasionally thinking of these people and put it out of your mind again rather easily.

i don't see the problem. i often think about past boyfriends, or crushes, albeit fleeting thoughts. i can't remember before age 10 because i didn't have my first crush until grade 5. i still remember the way he'd pronounce his 'ing' endings and the teacher teasing him.

I keep it from causing a problem by sheer force of will.

When I got to high school I tried to look up the girl I had a crush on in 3rd grade to see if she might be there so I could find her again.

Now I've since limited myself on doing that sort of thing. The feelings of "like" or interest, or worse, are still present, I just force them down and hide them. Otherwise they stay prevalent and could affect my daily life.

Remembering fondly is one thing...letting go is another apparently.

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I have a solution.

Try to kiss a bull in a red tent.

You will quickly look to forget about the past.

I am not certain what you described is a "problem"

I can't stop thinking about a girl I dated for three years in high school. I was...or thought...I was in love with her, head over heels. I lost contact with her, and will probably never see her again, but she always crosses my mind. I always wonder what it would be like if we were still together. I know she has a boyfriend now, and I wonder if she has ever thought about me.

That's probably true. But what if it was in a blue tent?

perhaps this will bring a little relief..to all the men who think about gals in their past.

I promise you, they think about you too.