i try to avoid that attitude though jane because if it gets to that
point you have it the point of no return in most cases and the
relationship has no hope for the future.

Agreed, most definatly, thats when you spend the majority of your time
trying to convince the other of you honesty and integrity and that
sucks...too much drama too much energy and by the point, the sex is gone
anyway.

J

maybe that's why none of my relationships work out lol i don't play
games and i don't really try to convince them of anything. i just act
like myself and if they ain't into me i walk. i don't get streesed out
over relationships either though.

I have a lot to learn....

sigh........

Interesting topic...Well, I have to agree with Chismah's four points as
well. Those would be big deal breakers for me, I would think. Also
another big turn off is if your "one and only" has more one and onlys
then you...That's a sign for me to get the hell out of there ASAP.

And finally, and this sometimes happens to me, is this; The woman
doesn't have to share, like, or even understand my intrests, profession
and/or hobbies, but for God's sake...There's no need to put me down
because of them. For example...Because of the stuff I write, I tend to
get invited to a lot of comic/sci-fi and fantasy conventions. Now, a
lady may not understand or approve of the stuff I write or the places I
go to promote it, but really...Must I get talked down to because of
that, like my profession is such a joke? I make a decent amount of
money, and may make even more in time, so its not like its a joke or
anything. If you don't approve or share my intrests, that's
cool...Chances are some of yours aren't very desirable to me either. The
difference is, however, I'm not going to make fun of those interests

Anyway, that's my big one...Well, next to being superfical. Or a gold
digger. Or having a violent temper that tends to manifest itself in
flying objects aimed at me.

Wow...Guess there are more turn offs then I thought. -=x

The whole "insecurity" "fear factor" thing is really what gets me. I
mean when you're with someone you really care for - you try to show them
that in everything you do - but be late coming home from the store one
time and you are f*cking the bag boy!!

what gives?

J

They are insecure, but when they start accusing u of messing around with
another person. It fall down that they are quilty and just want to
blame u for his action.

Why are all the fucked up men ruining it for the good guys ...damn it!!
WILL

come to think of it Chica...maybe he was doing the bag boy!!

In all seriousness, you have a very valid point!!

J

lmao....i had some girlfriends say that but i think it has alot to do
with the insecurity of those particular ones....if they just wanted to
fuck the bagboy they should have just said so

"Why are all the fucked up men ruining it for the good guys ...damn
it!!"

Oh, my brother, testify!

Seriously...Judge me for MY screw ups, not your last relationship's fuck
ups. That would also be a huge turn off, getting into confrotations
because you're being constantly accused of behaving like and being about
to burn you like your ex did.

OK, NOW I'm done with turn offs...lol! -=x

can we add turn ons to the mix or is it a previous post i need to go
bring back up, does anyone know?

turn ons welcome here as well...only if you can give me something I can
use KB!

J

Biggest turn on for me is someone that diesn't take themselves so
seriously that they can't have any fun, you know? A relationship should
not be a goddamned Lifetime drama 24/7...It needs some levity, some fun,
some silly moments that you can look back on years later and it still
brings a smile to your face.

Someone you can have fun with, my friends, is one of the greatest turn
ons...That and if they come bearing xhoxolate! -=x

please note that this is only ones man's opinion but here are some
things that i like----well fitting suits, nice skirts(not too
short),painted toes, light makeup(if you must)(a little pink in the
cheeks is always hot), open toed shoes(if you have the feet for them)a
little gold(nothin gaudy)(occassional ankle bracelet or toe ring is
nice)

personality---smart, sense of humor,easygoing,some sort of playful
competitive spirit(not overbearing tho), warm heart, in touch with their
feelings and not ashamed of them, COMMON SENSE,knows what they want, not
afraid to get dirty if they have to, knows how to be sensual.

physically---nice hair, nice scent,softlips,softhips,nice thighs, and a
nice butt

thanks KB, I'll put that in my profile!!

Kidding aside, I take pride in my appearance and my personality and
consider to myself to be quite unique in either case and I'm still
looking...

heavy sigh...

When I was in the service and would go out with the girls we had a cheer
we would resite when we were out drinking...

"Here's to the men we love, and here's to the men that love us, but the
men that we love aren't the men that love us so to hell with the men
heres to us!"

I guess after close to fourteen yrs of marriage I'm back to that!!

J

Biggest turn off is not being clean. A few women I have met lately by
finding old friends, I can not stand to be next to for the BO. One of
these old friends said everything was great until they were married.
Then she saw him talking with a female friend. He went to take a shower
and she accuses him of cheating. This bitch thinks because some one
wants to bath they are cheating. I know they have a kid together but no
way in hell would I live like that.

Being dirty from working is actually a turn on. Manual labor work like
digging ditches type stuff gets you very dirty. But I love to know the
person I am getting involved with is not afraid of work. Who knows I may
need help pulling a calf again in the future. That is a nasty, smell,
hard job but it has to be done.

Another turn off is real short hair. If a ladies hair does not atleast
come close to touching her shoulder it is a turn off. Women should look
like a woman.

Long hair like to the bottom of your shoulder blades is a turn on for
me. I love long hair.

I prefer no make up and no tan. Yes lilly white skin is attractive. It
is what god gave you show it no matter what color you are.

Piercings other than ear lobes can be a turn off. A nose ring is a
definite turn off.

i saw someone on another post and it brought something to mind...it's
hot, ilove it..a women in a skirt and high heels with nice legs pulling
her skirt up and bending over....

I think a nose ring is sexy, i have one. If u place a small nose ring it
looks nice.

i like them too. a small gold one is very sexy, i liked pierced ears
too.