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Topic: S.L.D.Rs
Pete026 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 14799	Mon 10/27/08 03:09 PM Edited by Pete026 on Mon 10/27/08 03:16 PM
Stupidly-Long-Distance-Relationships. After three (well, two and a half lol - one was merely a stupid knee-jerk reaction) failed SLDRs, I'm finally convinced that they DON'T work. Does anyone have any sucess stories to prove me wrong?

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 10/27/08 03:10 PM
you need to check out pages 35 and on with the matchmaking game

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Mon 10/27/08 03:13 PM
Does anyone have any sucess storied to prove me wrong? i don't know. is 2+ years stupidly long?

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Mon 10/27/08 03:16 PM
For most its a bad idea...but some, it works...takes alot of trust

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 10/27/08 03:16 PM
They can work, but require perfection in several areas...better to be friends until you can get closer to each other.

Pete026 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 14799	Mon 10/27/08 03:16 PM
Does anyone have any sucess stories to prove me wrong? i don't know. is 2+ years stupidly long? Time is not the issue, rather distance. Congrat's for the 2+ years relationship though I hope to one day last that long with someone myself.

lavos28 Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 1196	Mon 10/27/08 03:17 PM
depends on how much your willing to commit to it

Pete026 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 14799	Mon 10/27/08 03:18 PM Edited by Pete026 on Mon 10/27/08 03:21 PM
depends on how much your willing to commit to it I'm extremely willing to commit. Just seems like nobody else is

lavos28 Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 1196	Mon 10/27/08 03:19 PM
also i find that when im not looking....thats when i usually find someone. give it time and youll find someone

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Mon 10/27/08 03:23 PM
I refuse to have an LDR

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 10/27/08 03:24 PM
I refuse to have an LDR Me too.

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Mon 10/27/08 03:25 PM
Stupidly-Long-Distance-Relationships. After three (well, two and a half lol - one was merely a stupid knee-jerk reaction) failed SLDRs, I'm finally convinced that they DON'T work. Does anyone have any sucess stories to prove me wrong? No, in fact all of my stories support your position 100%.

IMAGR81 Joined Mon 08/18/08 Posts: 1443	Mon 10/27/08 03:26 PM
Pete, you have to look at a LDR as a challange and know that you will have to have a different kind of relationship. it is better and worse in several way. A better way is that you have to learn to communicate more. Talk about your day to day life. You have to express yourself in words because your presence will not be felt and you will have to talk about "feelings" more. A worse way is that you can not be physical, and so you will not have that bonding. You also do not know what their quirks are when you are not there so that is something to over come if the LDR turns to one of you moving. It can be done, but you have to have patience, understanding, you have to want to care about the other person, compassion and most of all faith and trust.

Pete026 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 14799	Mon 10/27/08 03:35 PM
Pete, you have to look at a LDR as a challange and know that you will have to have a different kind of relationship. it is better and worse in several way. A better way is that you have to learn to communicate more. Talk about your day to day life. You have to express yourself in words because your presence will not be felt and you will have to talk about "feelings" more. A worse way is that you can not be physical, and so you will not have that bonding. You also do not know what their quirks are when you are not there so that is something to over come if the LDR turns to one of you moving. It can be done, but you have to have patience, understanding, you have to want to care about the other person, compassion and most of all faith and trust. Thanks for your reply. And again, I believe I have patience, understanding, compassion etc. - I'm not trying to make myself out to be Mr. Perfect (FAR from it ), but it seems these qualities are never reciprocated.

IMAGR81 Joined Mon 08/18/08 Posts: 1443	Mon 10/27/08 03:38 PM
Well LDR's are a two way street, both have to have these same qualities.

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Mon 10/27/08 04:02 PM
Does anyone have any sucess stories to prove me wrong? i don't know. is 2+ years stupidly long? Time is not the issue, rather distance. Congrat's for the 2+ years relationship though I hope to one day last that long with someone myself. yeah, i guess our distance isn't THAT far - only about 1500 miles

lnghntr Joined Sun 08/03/08 Posts: 1618	Mon 10/27/08 04:03 PM
I am kinda workin on one...should I just cut and run?

Pete026 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 14799	Mon 10/27/08 04:09 PM
I am kinda workin on one...should I just cut and run? Stay with it. Please, prove me wrong. I'd love to hear that someone had success where I failed. I wish you all the luck in the world

lnghntr Joined Sun 08/03/08 Posts: 1618	Mon 10/27/08 04:10 PM
thanks Pete,gonna give it a shot I think

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Mon 10/27/08 04:11 PM
I am kinda workin on one...should I just cut and run? Stay with it. Please, prove me wrong. I'd love to hear that someone had success where I failed. I wish you all the luck in the world We have Badgirl and Sharpshooter, met on here, saying their vows as we speak