The reason this is on my mind is cause a couple months ago I found an ex online, I guess my main reason for contacting him was to see was he alive and well. I had already had in my mind that he was happily married with children. I sent him a email via myspace to say hello and that was it, in his reply he leaves his number. I called and we talked about old times and how life was now, we are both single with no children. We had wanted to meet up then but with me working long hours this time of year it seemed to not be happening. So last week I went on a date with a guy I met online and let's just say it was like watching paint dry, there were no sparks what so ever. After departing and feeling so angry about the commute, my ex sends a txt msg. I happend to be close by and we went for drinks. After that we went back to his place to talk and watch movies. This was the first time I had seen this man in 8 years, but my feelings for him were the same. The moment I laid eyes on him I knew I had to get him back. At this point I am very confused cause so much time had passed and perhaps we won't get back together. I was 16 when we met and he was 20, now that we are grown up I should be well over him right? Here is where I need the advice, do I tell him how I feel to avoid losing him again or stay friendly in hopes he makes a move? either way I don't want to play any games but at the same time unsure of how to approach the situation.

I just read the first couple sentences. Don't need more. Disaster.

What is love?

If you still have feelings after all this time why not give it a chance.What was the reason for the break up?

I would take it slow and see where it goes. Good luck!

It's a really long story the, bottom line is a family member of mine broke us up out of jealousy. I was too young for the type of relationship he wanted.

love can be hard to contain. i know from experience.

the family member didn't break you up. only the two of you are responsible for the way you react to any information and/or situation.

i doubt i'd tell him immediately about the way that i feel, but i'd certainly let him know my interest in continuing the relationship.

Being so young when you first started the relationship, perhaps you've both grown and can start anew and this time it might work. Just hang out for awhile and don't get to heavy with it, let it develop on it's own.

If your family was against it once even if it was because you were way to much younger maturity wise than he was it is not likely they are going to be for it now.

There just seems something lame about a 20 year old trying to put the moves on a sixteen year old. Lame is rarely improves with time. That he is further down the road and still does't have a wife or kid you know about isn't much of an endorsement.

Yea you are and adult and can make your own choices but why go back to a guy you know will be and upstream swim.

Sounds like you are just hitting a rough patch on the dateing scene and maybe applying selective memory to this situation if it took you this long to get back to him.

Either way hope it works out for you. Good Luck.

i dont think love goes away especially when you really love that person.

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truth

no matter how much you miss them

agreed

true dat man

we only have one life so live it to the full - don't have to many regrets in life.

go get him, but take it slow to make sure it really does feel right.

i miss my other half

He was 20 at the time you met, had he been so in love with you, he would have waited for and pursued you when the time was right (when you reached 18) I would be very careful of a man whose morales/love gets easily swayed by another. Had he been totally focused on you, there would have been no reason for outside influences to distract him from the ultimate goal..................you


Good luck in your quest.

WHAT IS LOVE??

when you really love someone, that love not only lasts forever, it grows with time.