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i know you've heard this story so many times...
met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. |
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itsmetina
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Mon 10/13/08 07:08 AM
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I don't talk with alot of people hopin to get involved.I think maybe taking it slow as friends would work best
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Maybe he got caught. You lucked out because he's gone.
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I don't know how to deal with it, either. It's happened a couple of times, or when we finally have met, the connection or chemistry isn't there afterall.
Maybe the man THOUGHT he wanted a relationship and then realized further in that he wasn't ready, but it sure would have been nice if he had communicated it with you. |
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. About the best advice I can give you is when you first start talking with a guy, have the "I don't care" attitude. Meaning, have the attitude that you really don't care if you hit it off or not because that will save you from having any kind of misleading emotions. If, after a couple of weeks of conversation, and things are still going great,then maybe you can change your attitude a little bit. It'll prevent alot of heartache in the end. |
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That's typical of dating sites in general -- you're going to run into phonies -- doesn't mean everyone is like that, though; although I have yet to run into one who isn't....
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Good to know that I am not alone out there with the same problem .Hugs to everyone who is in the same boat .
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. About the best advice I can give you is when you first start talking with a guy, have the "I don't care" attitude. Meaning, have the attitude that you really don't care if you hit it off or not because that will save you from having any kind of misleading emotions. If, after a couple of weeks of conversation, and things are still going great,then maybe you can change your attitude a little bit. It'll prevent alot of heartache in the end. i guess thats right... the funny thing is; i've been there, done that but i keep on trying... |
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That's typical of dating sites in general -- you're going to run into phonies -- doesn't mean everyone is like that, though; although I have yet to run into one who isn't.... oh wow... most of them are..??? oh boy... |
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I stopped looking here. Just talked to people as friends. That's when it happened. Don't talk to anyone with any expectations.
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as a bartender,,,i usually assume all the "lines" come our first,,,
Believe NONE of what you hear,,,and only half of what you see However, I still have "belief, faith and hope" that some are as real as me |
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That's typical of dating sites in general -- you're going to run into phonies -- doesn't mean everyone is like that, though; although I have yet to run into one who isn't.... oh wow... most of them are..??? oh boy... Well, I've met 9 people from dating sites -- 8 were totally dishonest (one was an arsonist, one was a phony bank teller, one was a newspaper columnist who wanted me to write her column for her -- uncredited, and unpaid, of course!) and the ninth was, shall we say, "deceptively inconsistent," for lack of a truly vague enough term to keep me out of trouble.... I think it's highly unlikely I would ever be able to trust anyone from a dating site enough to even attempt a real-life meeting, at this point -- but I always allow for the possibility of an exception.... |
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totally real!
as a bartender,,,i usually assume all the "lines" come our first,,, Believe NONE of what you hear,,,and only half of what you see However, I still have "belief, faith and hope" that some are as real as me |
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ok, I gotta "share"
Met 2, all were what they said they were,,even looked like their pics,,, I may be cheap,,but I ain't easy,,, It took me a while before I would agree to meet. For me, its all about, "can I hang out with this person for an hour". No expectations, no disapointments. I think it can be done,,but you gotta let go of the negativity and naitivity JMHO |
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this happened to me on a LDR thats why i dont do them,what an exspensive "chance" that turned out to be.
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. |
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That's typical of dating sites in general -- you're going to run into phonies -- doesn't mean everyone is like that, though; although I have yet to run into one who isn't.... oh wow... most of them are..??? oh boy... Well, I've met 9 people from dating sites -- 8 were totally dishonest (one was an arsonist, one was a phony bank teller, one was a newspaper columnist who wanted me to write her column for her -- uncredited, and unpaid, of course!) and the ninth was, shall we say, "deceptively inconsistent," for lack of a truly vague enough term to keep me out of trouble.... I think it's highly unlikely I would ever be able to trust anyone from a dating site enough to even attempt a real-life meeting, at this point -- but I always allow for the possibility of an exception.... i am loosing hope about all this.. |
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. thanks for sharing Jill, i guess we all have to learn our lesson the hard way... |
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. thanks for sharing Jill, i guess we all have to learn our lesson the hard way... |
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i know you've heard this story so many times... met a really nice guys from here... you seem to have that connection that we've all been waiting for.. talked for like a few days, believed that there is something going on that is out of the ordinary, felt all the emotions and shared things and then ...BAM !!!! he disappeared .. how do you deal with that..??? i am really upset.. help please.. |
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