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My girlfriend just left me for an ex. Now the thing is, she says she still loves me, just not like she used to. She also says that she's only with him temporarily and that she still wants to get married and have a life together like we planned. That's a simplified version... there are lots of things she's saying and doing that makes me go "wtf?" but the main thing I don't get is why she would be doing this when she's told me that she doesn't think it will last and that she plans to come back to me? She says she expects it to last a while, no shorter than a month or two but definitely not years. This is someone I have LOVED like I never thought I coudl love another human... for a year and almost 8 months. I was ready to spend my life with her and she hits me with this out of the blue. Wtf is going on? Sounds like my most recent situation. Is she bipolar? I wouldn't be surprised honestly. Her dad certainly is in my opinion... and I don't care how much her family denies it. Maybe she picked up a little of it from him? It does seem pretty easy for her to go from happy and giggly to p*ssed off and then back to happy. |
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DUDE.... BEEN there DONE that... have the scars (real and emotional) to prove it... i have one word RUN RUN AND RUN FAST man,, FAST AND FAR!!!! and NEVER look back she is trying to make you the fall back.. the backup plan.. keep you on a string so if things dont work out with the ex.. she still has you in your lil cage to play with... get out man.. and good luck.... im sorry she is doing this to ya.. Well, her cousin tried to ask me out and I didn't really want her. When she found out she was asking why I didn't say yes... it was almost like she wanted me to date her. She's encouraged me to date other people... I don't see why she would do that if she's trying to make me wait for her. |
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Sounds like she is putting you up on a shelf...Thinking/Knowing you will stay there..
Get rid of her sorry azz |
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Edited by
The_Pete_Man
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Mon 09/22/08 03:26 PM
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All emotions aside, the very fact that she is doing this, and yet guarantees she's coming back, literally creates its own universe of questions about your future together.
This could happen again, or maybe something more confusing. I believe you've got a LOT of thinking to do. Just lookin' out for you, Bro..... |
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All emotions aside, the very fact that she is doing this, and yet guarantees she's coming back, literally creates its own universe of questions about your future together. This could happen again, or maybe something more confusing. I believe you've got a LOT of thinking to do. Just lookin' out for you, Bro..... Yes, a lot of thinking indeed. That issue has been brought up before (that it could happen again) and I have given it a lot of thought and still am. I guess I just have to see what happens. I really don't think I've talked to her enough about this. I come up with new questions for her literally every day. The thing is, she appears to be no less confused than I am. It's like she's just acting on instinct and has no clue what she's actually doing or what she really wants. |
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You can listening to what she's saying with her mouth or you can listen to what she's saying with her actions.
You can't define anyone else's concept of love, only your own. Ask yourself if this is love according to your definition, if it's not, then realize it's not love. It's easy for other people to say "dump her", but it's your emotions and your pain and your decision. JMHO and wishing you the best. If only there was some way we could all just sleep past the pain. . . Marti Lou |
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it's better to know what a... um... er... FREE SPIRIT she is before you commit to spending the rest of your life with her.
I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied. To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now. Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me. |
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it's better to know what a... um... er... FREE SPIRIT she is before you commit to spending the rest of your life with her.
I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied. To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now. Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me. i am just saying that you shouldn't have to play second fiddle to this other guy....we ALL deserve better than that man...go get you a girl that is worth it |
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You can listening to what she's saying with her mouth or you can listen to what she's saying with her actions. You can't define anyone else's concept of love, only your own. Ask yourself if this is love according to your definition, if it's not, then realize it's not love. It's easy for other people to say "dump her", but it's your emotions and your pain and your decision. JMHO and wishing you the best. If only there was some way we could all just sleep past the pain. . . Marti Lou Texanese (Marti Lou) makes a terrific point. I'd just like that add I read a few months back that, "what is normal in a relationship is what is reasonable and comfortable for both parties in that relationship". I guess I just want you to remember that "both" includes you. |
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 You need to move on and forget about this girl. Its just gonna happen again if you get back together.
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it's better to know what a... um... er... FREE SPIRIT she is before you commit to spending the rest of your life with her.
I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied. To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now. Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me. i am just saying that you shouldn't have to play second fiddle to this other guy....we ALL deserve better than that man...go get you a girl that is worth it Well, that's why I am here. It seems very unlikely that I could find someone who makes me as happy as she used to, but I am definitely willing to try. There's not much else I can do otherwise besides sit around and feel sorry for myself. |
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it's better to know what a... um... er... FREE SPIRIT she is before you commit to spending the rest of your life with her.
I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied. To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now. Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me. i am just saying that you shouldn't have to play second fiddle to this other guy....we ALL deserve better than that man...go get you a girl that is worth it Well, that's why I am here. It seems very unlikely that I could find someone who makes me as happy as she used to, but I am definitely willing to try. There's not much else I can do otherwise besides sit around and feel sorry for myself. been there and done that....i think that you just need to be single for a while so that you can find happiness inside of yourself and not search for it in another person just my opinion though |
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it's better to know what a... um... er... FREE SPIRIT she is before you commit to spending the rest of your life with her.
I appreciate you taking the time to try to help, but I hope you're not implying that she is a slut. She's not a very sexual person at all, so it gets on my nerves when people tell me she just wants sex from him and then to cmoe back to me when she's satisfied. To be honest, if that's all it was, she knows she could just tell me that and it wouldn't bother me. She knows where I stand on sex and love, so that is not the case. I actually wish that was all it was. I could take that a lot better than thinking that there's actually someone she loves more than me now. Sex and love, although they often coincide, are two seperate things to me. i am just saying that you shouldn't have to play second fiddle to this other guy....we ALL deserve better than that man...go get you a girl that is worth it Well, that's why I am here. It seems very unlikely that I could find someone who makes me as happy as she used to, but I am definitely willing to try. There's not much else I can do otherwise besides sit around and feel sorry for myself. been there and done that....i think that you just need to be single for a while so that you can find happiness inside of yourself and not search for it in another person just my opinion though Good point... but I didn't have that before I had her... so I doubt it will be any easier to find now. I guess I just have issues. |
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Run
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So here's a relevant question:
Will you ever be able to trust her commitment to you even if you do take her back (assuming that she does come back)? |
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Given that she is cheating on you leaving her makes sense.....I never play with cheaters or stay with cheaters....
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What is it you want to hear?
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Man, you young Guys have too learn fast, that Love is opportunity for most woman. They sell you on this idea of love to get you too be wrapped up in only them. She knows she had you, and still has you. Your like Her little Puppet on Her string, while the other guy is Bangging Her Silly. The only way you should have any contact with her, is if you need practice for another girl. Thats what shes doing too you. If you cant just drop her cold turkey, just drop a load in her until you find someone else. If she wanted you she would do this to you. The best way too get back at her, is too make a life with people that are going to take you higer, and further than where you are now. Own your Balls, and learn how much power you really have
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What is it you want to hear? what they all want to hear, "she loves you" "stay with her" i just can't say it, sorry |
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man you need to quit hookin up with hood rats and you wont have that problem no more
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