I give up.

I have officially resigned myself to living alone for a good portion of my life... I have not had a large number of relationships, but I have learned from the relationships that I have had that I have to build a relationship from the ground up, and not look for that "quick score" to start off... and since very few women want to look beyond the past to see the person I am now, I would rather be alone than to have to prove myself to another person.

I will probably never find anyone that I can truly be myself with, but that doesn't mean I am closing my mind to the possibility.

"if you ain't lovin', you ain't livin'




-g. strait

If you think you are wrong, or you think you are right, you are correct.

ahhh....don't give up...like you said...the "quick score" is the problem...Nothing good ever comes from that...and building from the ground up...is the best way to go....as long as you are doing it together

I'm with you, I give up.

As I have heard it a few times in here it is better to have them hate you for who you are then love you for who your not.

The way I see it they either take me for me or walk a way!! I'm tooooo damn old to change now!!

Im with you...Not like Ive been searching long but, Ive resigned to just be me for a while..and forget trying* to find that " someone " to complete me...I can be a whole person without that...atleast maybe ..* shrugs*

This is along those lines of what the great Socrates said, when he uttered...."I drank what?"

I said that all day Sunday as I was slowly reminded via texts and phone calls asking if I was alive...

Ya know......I'm in kinda the same boat.....I'm still legally separated.....so no official divorce.....I've had over 50 ladies look at my profile since I came on here and not a ONE of them has seen anything that interests them.....sooooo GUESS what????

I don't really care!!! I'm happy with who I am....and the friends I have are good friends......and it's those people who aren't interested in getting to know someone while they are in "that limbo" in the legal arena are the ones that will lose.

Not to sound TOO conceited, but I'm quite a catch and don't mind saying so......

Just have fun!!!! Someone will come along one of these days and suprise you when you least expect it!!!

( I just LOVE that banana guy!!!)

Oh.....and by the way......it's NOT like I don't have enough to keep me busy for the next 30 years either!!! LOL

you are not a catch ....if you are married

Oppppsssssss........see my point????? Didn't even get past the word "married" to get to the part where it says "legal separation".......first REQUIREMENT in this state.......not MINE......but the LAWS.......

It's a year here......

BUT......I don't want to be dishonest and say single!!! What would YOU think if you and I were an "item" and I sprung it on you that I've got 3 more months till my divorce is final???

You'd question everything else about me then wouldn't you????

I have had many relationships -- some bad, some very bad, some catastrophic -- and I can sincerely say that it's better to be alone than be with the wrong person.

When the bulk of your time in a relationship is spent thinking of ways to get OUT of that relationship. it's time to go. It does help you formulate options, though!

bein alone is better than bein w/ someone u hate


lol

I was actually with a girl for 4 years. We only had real arguments about 2 subjects: Money and her smoking habits (cigarettes and other).

She had a debit card for my bank account, and the first time she asked me to let her use her card, I gave her an amount that would be available (cuz I kept the account balanced)... she took $30 more than I told her was available (she believed the ATM balance) and it nearly cost me $100 extra in bounced transactions.

She also ended up leaving her job due to her back hurting more than usual, so she had no income to buy her cigarettes and other habit supplies. On a side note, it was up to me to pay house expenses because I had a job <-- in her opinion, so she figured buying me dinner once a week and MAYBE offering gas money to her babysitting gig every weekday would be enough for her part.

Things went south six months ago, and I haven't had to worry about other people's habits since.

Sometimes though it is still better to be with someone you love (even if you hate certain things about her) than to be alone... Right?

I think just when you want to give up something gives you hope. Maybe its the addage that if you stop looking it will be there, I dont know.

I do know if you want to be with someone you will and if you dont then you wont.

Alone is better then being with someone that makes you feel as if your alone!!

I think the promise of Murphy's Law is that when you quit wanting one or looking you'll find an incredible person and THEN you'll have to step back and re-evaluate the flip side of this coin!

Couldn't have said it better myself