Topic: Spouse going out by themselves
FUNFELLA's photo
Mon 04/02/07 08:39 AM
Well, speaking from experience, I don't think it's a good idea. Last
year when I was travelling with my job, my wife decided to strt going
out. I thought it was just with her friends and I really didn't have a
problem with that but as it turns out she was going out and meeting
other fellas. Needless to say, she is now my ex.

slowtogetit's photo
Mon 04/02/07 08:47 AM
well that's a issue(trust) that should have been settled in each others
minds long before marriage. and if it isn't then why be with that
person?

i'm me before we, so i have no problrem with it.

devin112's photo
Mon 04/02/07 09:06 AM
I GOT THREE WORDS FOR YA,""TRY STOPING ME""laugh devil

iceprincess's photo
Mon 04/02/07 09:10 AM
If you can't let them go out by themselves i say your not in a
relationship as in marriage but in a parent child relationship and you
have control issues. if their cheating when they go out then by all
means drop em but don't try to control the situation it'll still be
there no matter what

Barbiesbigsister's photo
Mon 04/02/07 10:24 AM
I do feel its essential. After all everyone needs time away.

mrsart4all's photo
Tue 04/03/07 11:18 AM
I agree w/that, nothing said in my vows I was stuck to his hip 24/7.

You need that time away to regroup and reconnect w/your friends. I
don't see the harm as long as it is not harming the relationship ex.
mistrust, infidelity etc. but a break from one another is needed to
maintain a healthy relationship. :smile:

oldsage's photo
Tue 04/03/07 11:24 AM
Catch a butterfly, let it go.
If it comes back to you, it IS yours.
If it doesn't, it was never meant to be.

Same with people, we all have friends we enjoy seeing.
That special person is who we want to be with, till the end of time

ellgee1976's photo
Tue 04/03/07 11:30 AM
im gonna have SEVERE issues if he has issues with my goin out with my
friends..they were there LONG before he was

a friendship needs nurtured just like a relationship does...

goin for a "girl's night out" only gives the girl something to talk
about with her man..just like having a hobbie...

outside interests are essential..if not..what the hell are ya gonna talk
about when you're 80, sittin in a rockin chair, or at the breakfast
table eating breakfast?

i'll be damned before i eat breakfast with my man in silence, cuz
there's nothing to say

no photo
Tue 04/03/07 01:31 PM
WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT! IF YOU TRUST ONE ANOTHER,THERE SHOULD BE NO
PROBLEM!!!

HEY ELL....LONG TIME NO SEE...

flowerforyou

Tameka's photo
Tue 04/03/07 01:31 PM
marriage doesnt connect you at the hip... there still has to be some
personal space... thats why you need trust in a relationship.

no photo
Tue 04/03/07 01:54 PM
Ellgee. What about HE going out for the night or nights wtith, as he
says, with the boys, and having plenty to talk about?

no photo
Tue 04/03/07 01:55 PM
Hello Nascarquety!

no photo
Fri 06/15/07 12:21 PM
Well is it?

no photo
Sat 08/18/07 05:17 PM
bigsmile

markusmarkus's photo
Sun 08/19/07 06:56 AM
I think having some time apart out with friends is a good thing.
We can't be glued to each others hips 24/7 or it becomes co-dependent and that isn't healthy.
However their has to be trust,respect and appreciation given to the fact we are with someone.

Puffins1958's photo
Sun 08/19/07 07:07 AM
I've always believed in "LOOK, but DON'T touch"...that pretty much says it all...

laugh :tongue: laugh

s1owhand's photo
Sun 08/19/07 07:10 AM
if there isn't enough trust to go out separately
then you can't call it a "relationship"!

HillFolk's photo
Sun 08/19/07 07:18 AM
Good for both to have their alone time with other friends. We were both diagnosed as codependent. Finishing each other's sentences can get really weird after a while. There is the loss of the single identity that can happen. One can feel that without the other that they are lost. Been around women who were not allowed to have their own friends. Not a pretty picture. The trust issue can be taken to the extreme. Trust is good. Not having trust in a relationship can be detrimental but not allowed to have friends of your own is the other end of the spectrum.

Snugglesbyfire's photo
Sun 08/19/07 07:19 AM
as most before me said Trust is the key issue, and your still an separate person even though a couple..........so with no Trust what kind of relationship do you have?

renay23's photo
Sun 08/19/07 07:36 AM
if you cant trust the person you have chosen to be with, then you got a problem.