I was editing and I erased my damn post and I cant get it back.


Recap: Lately I feel misunderstood by people.

I have had mood swings over this and it freaks people out.

I go from being a nice guy to being an Ass when I feel that people are being rude, stupid or taking advantage of my kindness.And then I end up looking like the bad guy.

Nice guy syndrome - people mistaking my kindness for weakness.

Any one know what I'm talking about?

yupp I get the same way hun no worries I think youre amazing

You ever put your best foot forward just to have a door slammed in your face? It makes me want to rip that door of its freak'en hinges.

all the time babe

I knew you were cool...I knew it the whole time.

Hey what can I say lol

Your Amazing and Delicious too!!!

Sometimes when that happens one must look at their life as a whole in the process. What areas of your life are you having problems in or is this just random and your not having any thing else bothering you.

Stress will bring on many symptoms or could it be something else as Bi-Polar or another medical problem.

Well I give and get little in return, the thing I remember is that I choose to give so if I dont get anything in return its ok.

Yes, it can be frustrating but maybe we can start up a support group for those of us out there.

I know all too well what you are talking about...

<quote>Recap: Lately I feel misunderstood by people.

I have had mood swings over this and it freaks people out.

I go from being a nice guy to being an Ass when I feel that people are being rude, stupid or taking advantage of my kindness.And then I end up looking like the bad guy.

Nice guy syndrome - people mistaking my kindness for weakness.

Any one know what I'm talking about? </quote>

Yeah, I know what you're talking about.

You THINK you are a "nice guy" but you really aren't. If you were really kind, understanding, and blah blah, you wouldn't get put out when someone mistakes your "kindness" for weakness.

Actually, it IS weakness. You are too weak to maintain your facade of being "nice".

Generally speaking, people who identify themselves as "nice" never are, and in particular those ones who go around expressing self-pity because they (supposedly) get treated like crap for being so "nice". This is just how they get attention and attract more victims. (Women do this, too, by the way.)

I've known lots of men who were genuinely kind, understanding, and considerate of others. One and all, this type of man never makes a big deal about being the way he is.

I hope this helps answer your questions. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

You THINK you are a "nice guy" but you really aren't. If you were really kind, understanding, and blah blah, you wouldn't get put out when someone mistakes your "kindness" for weakness.


So, I should let people take advantage of me and not let that bother me?

You have been reading too many self help books honey. For you to say that I am whining about anything is a total miss comprehension on your part. Saying that I am an ass in essence and that I am looking to victimize women is way over the line on you part.

You don’t even know me. I know I know. you will say well” I know your type…bla blaa blaaa…) Right?

Well, leave the POP Psychology to Dr. Phil sweet heart and you stick to looking through your neighbors trash cans for dirt on them.

My post was an attempt to find others who have experienced this and see how they dealt with it. Not to have people like you come on here and tell me that I should just suck it up when other people try and screw me over.

You may be a door matt but I’m not.

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So I should let people take advantage of me and not let that bother me?

You have been reading too many self help books honey. For you to say that I am whining about anything is a total miss comprehension on your part. Saying that I am an ass in essence and that I am looking to victimize women is way over the line on your part.

You don’t even know me. I know I know. you will say well” I know your type…bla blaa blaaa…) Right?

Oh' and the last time I checked Idealism was not a weakness. It was something to be admired.


Well, leave the POP Psychology to Dr. Phil sweet heart and you stick to looking through your neighbors trash cans for dirt on them.

My post was an attempt to find others who have experienced this and see how they dealt with it. Not to have people like you come on here and tell me that I should just suck it up when other people try and screw me over.

You may be a door matt but I’m not.

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i don't know what you are talking about...

i, just go with the "a hole" thing 24/7...and then everyone knows what to expect and they are comfortable with that predictability

That's it !!!t From now on i'm going to just be a prick. You are right.

I have one its called: Local Bartender

I've moved around a lot the past four years and I'm done moving now. Maybe you’re right. Maybe my subconscious is messing with me.

Nice to meet ya by the by.

LUV ya Little Monkey.