Hey what can I say lol

<quote>Recap: Lately I feel misunderstood by people.

I have had mood swings over this and it freaks people out.

I go from being a nice guy to being an Ass when I feel that people are being rude, stupid or taking advantage of my kindness.And then I end up looking like the bad guy.

Nice guy syndrome - people mistaking my kindness for weakness.

Any one know what I'm talking about? </quote>

Yeah, I know what you're talking about.

You THINK you are a "nice guy" but you really aren't. If you were really kind, understanding, and blah blah, you wouldn't get put out when someone mistakes your "kindness" for weakness.

Actually, it IS weakness. You are too weak to maintain your facade of being "nice".

Generally speaking, people who identify themselves as "nice" never are, and in particular those ones who go around expressing self-pity because they (supposedly) get treated like crap for being so "nice". This is just how they get attention and attract more victims. (Women do this, too, by the way.)

I've known lots of men who were genuinely kind, understanding, and considerate of others. One and all, this type of man never makes a big deal about being the way he is.

I hope this helps answer your questions. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Your eyes say it all Love.

What I believe Scarlett was trying to say is.........IF you are really a "nice guy" then you are always a nice guy.

A nice guy is not someone who is nice when he feels like he is getting what he wants........but is simply nice and considerate all of the time.

If you are being "taken advantage" of all the time......that is indeed all your fault.

If you give something with the expectation of it being returned then you are not a nice guy.......but an average joe.....as that his how most people are.

If you offer something out of "niceness" or "kindness" then nothing in return is expected or desired.........you simply did it because you cared, and because you wanted to.

It is only men who believe they are "nice guys" that are used and abused for their "niceness" because they are using "niceness" to garner something from another person.......and then they feel "used" when they don't get it.

P.S.
This is not a psychological evaluation of you personally..........but simply the mentality itself.......if the shoe fits, wear it, if it doesn't toss it in a barrel.

Kindness has been my weakness so, I tend to get on the defensive sometimes as 50% see it as desperation or stupidity and have to ruin it for the ones who don't. I am a work in progress.

And what do they say??

o0o0o babe you got pinned pretty good

You mean I got you pinned pretty good right.

Your really good at avoiding the reason you started this thread...

You’re really good at pointing out the obvious....DEEE TA DEeeee.

You mean I got you pinned pretty good right.

yea lol must've skipped over that word lol

Beats being oblivious...

You are 23 years old and sitting at home on the computer on a Saturday night and I'm the one who's oblivious.

Hold on...... I am laughing so hard right now I think I'm going to get a nose bleed..........

Stop play’en with your crank hank and get a girl already....please PURPLE BOX.

It's grown folk’s talken here Son!!!

Don't suppose you've heard of a job? Much less a third shift? Even if I wasn't working I still wouldn't be going out, this proves nothing. I am not actively seeking a relationship, so where does that leave you? Flirting with people that are not even flirting back is getting you how far in life? Funny how you compare yourself to "grown folk" yet can't even use english properly while typing, so I guess we could narrow talking down to nothing more then jibberish.

Why so defensive child hmmmmmm.....You are in love with ally cat aren’t you. Don’t be JELIOUS.....HATE THE GAME NOT THE PLAYER SON.