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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
 
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
I don't think that going into a relationship that you can be so absolute, a certain amount of compromise is needed.... |
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well E if you told her in the beginning then later she couldnt except it well,her lost
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
I don't think that going into a relationship that you can be so absolute, a certain amount of compromise is needed.... I know what you mean...but damn thats alot of compromise...marriage...more kids 
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
Nothing wrong with setting ground rules for yourself and she knew it the beginning she either accepted it and dated you or didn't and doesn't date you. It's her lose anyway 
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So sorry to hear about that, Eric. I gotta go see to my son, but let's talk later.
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Really? how long?
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well E if you told her in the beginning then later she couldnt except it well,her lost
I mean...I was completely honest with her...man I'm down |
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
I don't think that going into a relationship that you can be so absolute, a certain amount of compromise is needed.... I know what you mean...but damn thats alot of compromise...marriage...more kids
Yeah I hear you but at the same time it's probably something that she wanted from the beginning, maybe she was hoping you'd come around to her way of thinking? |
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Dude....you told her in the beggining what the deal was. It sux for you but you have no reason to feel guilty.
She probably thought she could change you...and when she saw that she couldnt, she left. |
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Don't be down, you are a great guy and you will find your someone special that understands and accepts you for who you really are
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Edited by
Moondark
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Thu 09/18/08 07:54 PM
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The children issue makes or breaks many relationships. I'm 38. I don't want to have any babies now. But for some reason, that makes some men think I won't be good with their existing kids.
I always wanted a family, grew up in a close family, and am very family centric. Just because I don't want babies now doesn't mean I don't want to deal with their children. Someone who is aiming for children and a family shouldn't get into a relationship thinking that the other person will change his mind. |
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
I don't think that going into a relationship that you can be so absolute, a certain amount of compromise is needed.... I agree with Talldub!! I am living with someone right now...and 3 months ago, we both said that we would not live with anyone again!! never? IF you think that you and she can work out some sort of compromise, then work it out. IF you are serious about never, then that is what it is...never. never is pretty clear. How long have you been seeing each other? did you meet on this site? How much time do you spend together? Life is a series of 'non'absolutes...the only thing that is certain, is change!! |
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Really? how long? almost a month now...and this starts...she thought maybe I'd change my mind...maybe just to young...this really confuses me |
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The children issue makes or breaks many relationships. I'm 38. I don't want to have any babies now. But for some reason, that makes some men think I won't be good with their existing kids. I always wanted a family, grew up in a close family, and am very family centric. Just because I don't want babies now doesn't mean I don't want to deal with their children. See...I've already got 2 kids...6 more years to go...I just wanted to enjoy the rest of my life with someone special....can't even type..hands are shaking |
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I had been seeing someone...for quite a while...from here...and we broke up today. I had told her in the beginning I would never get married again and that I didn't want any more children (shes 28 and wants one) so my question...was I being to set in my ways??? I know there has to be someone here thats been through this...I'm so confused
Has she ever been married? Does she have any kids already? Or would this be the first time? |
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Really? how long? almost a month now...and this starts...she thought maybe I'd change my mind...maybe just to young...this really confuses me Man....thats why we will never understand them. |
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So a month is quite awhile to you?
Let her go, who cares? If she can't accept you for who you are and what you want.... She'll never accept you totally in the long run. |
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Man...its just crazy...she liked the same music as me...inspired me to take up classical guitar...I like Yngwie Malmsteen so we would just sit a listen...she could even play alittle guitar herself...I thought I found the perfect match for me
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WOW I must be seriously outta the loop..i didnt know you were seeing anyone
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