I haven't found "the one" but I know many on here who have, and I've made many friends. Gotta start somewhere.

Heck I haven't even had any luck making friends with such sites. I mean in order for that to happen they would have to write or at least reply to a message I've sent. So, even if they aren't romantically intrested they are still being picky who they will befriend, which seems to be based upon looks as well...

i don't know very many women who are romantically interested in a man based on an email that they receive.

most interest and attraction is built on, over time

well you cant expect the site to come to a stop so everyone can e-mail you. not everyone on here is here for the same thing you are

No, I agree they base it entirely upon looks...
Maybe you don't believe it but you could give the MIT test a try yourself. They discovered a good looking guy can be as wonderful or as awful as he wants and he will always beat the the average guy no matter how much he has to offer.


As for interest and attraction being built up over time. I agree wholeheartedly, but that can't happen if they don't communicate? What's the guy suppose to think he sends a message she ignores it and that is some how going to build her attraction? How is she to discover this if she doesn't write back?

My apologies I wasn't suggesting any such thing... Please feel free to write or make friends with whom ever you like.

If you believe its all based on looks and also believe that you are ugly, then you really aint gonna do very well for yourself.

Women (mostly) do not care what you look like one bit just to talk to you. If you dont believe me, do what many other people seem to do around here, create a fake profile with a fake picture(of someone you think is good looking). I bet you that your response rate will be just as poor.

^^^^^Tina!!

Hey...welcome to the jungle, and I've just read the first and last pages...'cause I just got on the scene.

You can do well here. Yes, it does work...with a few enhancements.

Proof: I dated local ladies that I met via this site. I'm older uglier than you, so anything is possible.

Enhancement: Notice how many profiles of regular people have few pics of themselves, but pics of their dogs, cat, trucks, etc. I took off my pics and put on the clown. Now, I get previewed each day...if that's what you want.

Give it a go. Carry a patch kit for pirrhana bites, because they do happen.

to that ^^ i flat out say 'bull****'. it is the bold, confident man, the one who makes us laugh who most attracts us. of course we aren't interested in men whom we find ugly but, in my case, the looks are secondary.



and to this ^^ i agree with dan99; if you can't find anything interesting enough to make YOU stand out from all the others, she isn't gonna reply. i don't get all that many emails, but i hear some women say they get 100s a day. if she's gonna sift through those, make sure she notices yours. otherwise, regardless of how good-looking you are, or aren't, you won't get a reply

the way i see it is that i'm not even 100% sure that the photo i see on a profile accurately reflects the person who wrote it, so why should i base my response on whether or not the person is attractive.

maybe try updating your profile to include interests you have. the one statement about giving this a try on first look to me sounds like you are here for hookup only. thats just my opinion

Give it a try then come back and tell me it isn't so...


If that was true I'd have to beat them off with a stick. So, I know that's not it!

while you make take exception to yourself I assure you most women aren't that way. Especially so in my region as it a material world and it's all about me attitude.




I am what I am if I'm not given a chance they will never know they just base their opinion on a picture and move on...




Evidently many do and besides I've got better things to do than spinb lies like those plyers they go after time after time.

As for the Hooking up remark presented by another poster. Give me a break I realize some people do that but I'm not one of them. My commitment runs deeper than a saint's. But that doesn't mean I some sort of nice guy. I do my best to treat others with decency and respect but I will not permit someone to disrespect me as only a coward doesn't stand up for what is right.

I would email u but ur restrictions wont allow it. Im too old

alright, let me try to say it in words that you seem to want to hear, since you are so sure that you know women better than i do (even being one, imagine that!)

awww, you poor hard-done by guy and all these horrible woman who can't see the wonderful man right before their very eyes.

how dare they not be attracted to you. why you're not ugly, why would you even say you are? it's their fault that they can't see the wonderful, kind, attractive person that you are.

you just keep being that nice guy and i am sure, in due time, they will all come around, or at least one who appreciates all that you are.

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gee, no wonder i'm not the best person to blow sunshine up another's butt. i stink at it.

not the truth
looks are important, however you do not have to be perfect--
more about confidence and how you treat me

Its not all about looks,its about how u carry yourself and how u respond to someone..

I'm not claiming to know women better than you. I'm just saying I can post a profile, send a message or what ever and not get a reply or one single hit.



LOL, please spare me the poor pity party parade. I don't for a single minute feel sorry for myself. I completely able to accept that there are some people in this world just not cut out to
be deemed datable. It's really not all that unusal as it happens in nature all the time. Those with the most desirable traits are sought after by the females, those who are not go extinct.



I'm not bitter about it and certainly not lashing out about what women desire. What escapes my understanding is how they seem to say attraction grows with time but pass up opportunity after opportunity. You've got to communicate if anything is going to happen... That's the thing I speak of when ever I've messaged someone it just went ignored. If it was I that waited for a message then I'd be waiting until the sun went supernova for that to come around.



I've been called many things but nice has never been one of them. I've been thoughtful, I've been kind, I've been generous, but nice never! I'd leave you standing on the curb if you start acting like a spoiled little cry baby who always got her way with daddy.

see, u ignored what I said....I can see why u have issues

I wasn't ignoring you I was addressing comments of substance. Besides anything you have to contribute can be said here, can it not?

I'm sorry if it upsets you that someone 17 years my senior isn't someone I want messaging me. Let alone someone who only presents her belly for the world to see. If you ask me I find it a little too creepy someone your age trying to message younger men. Maybe others would be flattered but I'm just not into Cougars. I find it just as disgusting as a 19 year old women would someone my age trying to message her...

I have my restricts in place and the only two criteria is distance and age. It's pointless to try and engage in a realtionship without some form of commonality or the ability to physically be with the person. I'm sure there is some wonderful people all over the globe but it's just not pratical for the purposes of dating if you don't travel.

Everyone is right...You are a jerk! I was just trying to be a friend! You do not deserve my friendship!