Peccy, I hope you know we jist argued about that and his side of course was totally different.....

Thank you for your reply in here about that.

Dan... sigh we are in admiration.

whas that peccy and some very gorgeous sweet girl? sorry i didnt read any of this.........but it said long distance.........so how do i get together with the beautiful and sweetest purplecat from Canada? i cant do this but i would love too..........

so my question is, which one of you is moving to be with the other person?...in the case of a LDR...eventually the goal is to be physically together..isnt it? Because if that isnt the goal then what kind of relationship do you have?..friendships can last forever, even if you dont share the same physical space..but if you are looking for a long term mate, then a LDR is an exercise in futility....

I'm gonna be the one to move. She has a 16 yo in school and a home business to run. She can't up and leave, whereas I can. Plans are to move out of southern GA further North, away from the gators!.......lol in two years when her daughter finishes school.

I have found myself in a LDR situation as well...
I thought it was something that I would never do because of the complications that can arise
But I love him so much that im going to do everything in my power to make it work
Good luck to everyone

First of all Angel & Pec...congrats!!! LDR's CAN and DO work. Granted it takes two people who are committed to that relationship and lots & lots of communication. Honesty at all times.

I was on vacation one year in Myrtle Beach. He was from Canada and was there playing golf. We had a blast that week. Found that each of us went there the same time of year and met there again the next year. It was then we decided to give a relationship a try.

It worked for 5 years and it was wonderful. His job required him to travel a good deal so we were able to meet 3 or 4x a year for 3 or 4 days at a time. Sometimes more often. The main reason it stayed LDR was because I still had a child at home, she was in high school. I wouldn't have been moving to another state...but to another country and I wouldn't do that to her.

The relationship ended, not because of distance, not because we didn't love each other, not because we didn't plan our future, but because an accident caused him to be paralyzed like Christopher Reeves was and because of complications, his life ended within two years of the accident. This was the most wonderful relationship I've ever had. We NEVER took our time together for granted, we never took EACH OTHER for granted. Each new time together was almost like the first time but better. We were ALWAYS considerate and respectful of each other's feelings. Yes, there were times when we wished we could be with each other at that very moment...but there was always the phone and pc. There is enough loneliness in this world, enough sadness, enough pain. If you can find love and happiness 1 mile apart or 5000 miles apart...grab it with all you've got! There are NO guarantees EVER about ANYTHING.

Good Luck to you both!!!!

As well, it is much, much, much easier to lie and hide things from the other in an LDR. My ex decided telling me he had an active warrant for a DUI wasn't important. Oh, and I didn't know about the DUI either, or the fact that he had no valid license and was supposed to be moving here. Oh, and I also didn't know he barely worked and donated plasma to buy cigarettes. He let me buy his plane ticket and never repaid me even half, and at the end flat out stole $200. In sum, he showed me what he wanted me to see and after a few months I put it together on my own. If it wasn't an LDR situation I'd have seen it sooner.

Communication and being an open book is key.

Words of caution. BE CAREFUL.

I have one bit advise to give any LDR couples. Especially those that meet on line. Don't stay on the site unless you are individually strong as well as a couple...This is why. I have been doing the matchmaking Game for almost a year now. This is my observation. A man/woman will not get the time of day but as soon as there hooked up in come the vultures wanting to tear them apart.

Now if you not strong individual and as a couple then they can rip you apart. And if you don't make a pact.....that if anyone says jack diddly you go to each other first and ask don't just assume what they say is truth. I have not only seen this happen but in one instance told him it was going to happen and who was going to do it.

I have one bit advise to give any LDR couples. Especially those that meet on line. Don't stay on the site unless you are individually strong as well as a couple...This is why. I have been doing the matchmaking Game for almost a year now. This is my observation. A man/woman will not get the time of day but as soon as there hooked up in come the vultures wanting to tear them apart.

Now if you not strong individual and as a couple then they can rip you apart. And if you don't make a pact.....that if anyone says jack diddly you go to each other first and ask don't just assume what they say is truth. I have not only seen this happen but in one instance told him it was going to happen and who was going to do it.

As you know i am in a LDR and i met her online. Previous to her i was in other online relationships. I have never had any of these 'vultures' trying to tear us apart. People that experience this are often just up to things they shouldnt and deserve it, or they are after some attention and twist things people say to make drama out of nothing.

First of all Angel & Pec...congrats!!! LDR's CAN and DO work. Granted it takes two people who are committed to that relationship and lots & lots of communication. Honesty at all times.

I was on vacation one year in Myrtle Beach. He was from Canada and was there playing golf. We had a blast that week. Found that each of us went there the same time of year and met there again the next year. It was then we decided to give a relationship a try.

It worked for 5 years and it was wonderful. His job required him to travel a good deal so we were able to meet 3 or 4x a year for 3 or 4 days at a time. Sometimes more often. The main reason it stayed LDR was because I still had a child at home, she was in high school. I wouldn't have been moving to another state...but to another country and I wouldn't do that to her.

The relationship ended, not because of distance, not because we didn't love each other, not because we didn't plan our future, but because an accident caused him to be paralyzed like Christopher Reeves was and because of complications, his life ended within two years of the accident. This was the most wonderful relationship I've ever had. We NEVER took our time together for granted, we never took EACH OTHER for granted. Each new time together was almost like the first time but better. We were ALWAYS considerate and respectful of each other's feelings. Yes, there were times when we wished we could be with each other at that very moment...but there was always the phone and pc. There is enough loneliness in this world, enough sadness, enough pain. If you can find love and happiness 1 mile apart or 5000 miles apart...grab it with all you've got! There are NO guarantees EVER about ANYTHING.

Good Luck to you both!!!!

As you know i am in a LDR and i met her online. Previous to her i was in other online relationships. I have never had any of these 'vultures' trying to tear us apart. People that experience this are often just up to things they shouldnt and deserve it, or they are after some attention and twist things people say to make drama out of nothing.

well on the vultures side I agree....they were drama all over the place. But I have seen it over and over again. I will give you another example. I had one guy that I adored he was just a gem of a man...He was in the game for 20 games. And I them made a post. How sweet, kind, and the best flirt ever. You guessed it....all of the sudden all the ladies wanted him. Explain that one?