I think that I have to accept being single for the rest of my life. I do hope that I will meet someone to keep me company along this life's journey, but I'm thinking that I want too much, or have set the mark too high. And someone told me, not to settle for less, that hit home with me, and I haven't been able to shake that thought either. I caught myself writing a comment on a post and basically discribed what my expectations are. This is a repost from one of my earlier comments, I had to write it out, why do I think that I am single? " I think I'm still single because I'm pickie. He has to have a job and go to work at least 5 times a week. He can't be jealous of me or anything in my life. He can't be critical of me in any way. He can't flirt with other women. He has to like to travel. He has to be generous (but of course, within reason.) He has to be a gentleman, I'm rather old fashioned, I like my doors opened for me. It shows me that he is trying to make me feel comfortable and that he wants to be kind to me. I guess I will be single for a LONGGGGGGGG TIme.................." I'm giving up on true love.

All of that and you make him pay for dinner too.

Good luck

I've accepted being single, it's just the way it goes

Those are great qualities to have but each one is another sliver off the dating pool of men. If you are dating frequently up the number of things which are "he must be" if you are dating infrequently lessen the number.

It's the laws of supply and demand in motion. Find the right "price" you are willing to pay. Never give up.

He has to have a job and go to work 5 times a week? Well, that rules me out! I'm "retired"!

I used to make 55k before my job was outsourced to India. I burned out on that career and am a student getting a degree this year. I plan to have a very gainful career soon. Still I would never contact you with that requirement in place.

Yup, loosen those requirements. You may end up getting people who are willing to lie in order to fit your ideal man. The honest guys will likely not contact you.

Imagine watching a young clueless woman that has all that and more and watching her throw it away because she doesn't want to let the guy know what she is doing all the time and answer the phone. Oh blah whatever she is a stupid girl.

Imagine that.

I am so much happier being single and waiting for the man that has all my requirements then doing like I did in the past and just settled for less..

If I have to be single for the rest of my life because I held out, then so be it! But at least I'll be happy knowing I didn't settle for less then what I deserve.

Well, I think that an intelligent man would weigh my reasons for suggesting such a thing. I dated a guy that worked 1/2 the year. He didn't have any money but he had all the time in the world...Too much difference in our schedules.

A guy contacted me from here who said he "is trying" to collect S.S. because he hurt is knee. Well, why would I want to go out with him? My profile clearly states that I like to do things...parks, sports, activities.

perhaps you have to many(unnecessary/unreasonable) requirements

I hope that I am as wise as you are! OG help.

Will someone pwweeeeese explaine that comment to me? totally clueless here.

Ruth, you are so funny!

yes, right.
He must be law abiding.
He must be breathing.
He must like me.
haha.

I think the majority of intelligent men are more likely to keep looking for other profiles which don't have so many qualifications. An unintelligent or deceitful man would give it a try even if the list doesn't equal who they are.

I wish you the best. Be careful. The liars will be there so get the radar tuned up.

Being single isn't a bad thing. Just more fun to have someone to do things with.

funny thing I was talking with someone about this very subject last night. And while it isn't something either of us wants it is something that we both recognize may well happen. And I think after a while you come to grips with it. You start to place more emphasise on friends and companions and not so much on romantic love. It's either that or start in frustration. So you just take one day at a time, take time to watch a sunrise, and be thankful for what you have not what you don't have.....

being single nowadays might actually be a worthwhile choice to make, as you'd be avoiding all the nut-cases and the dregs of society that you'd surely have to deal with otherwise.

whoever started this online dating crap should have his fingers broken with a hammer.