I'm desperate......my daughter was nice enough to allow her cousin to stay with her, now she and her father are taking advatage of my daughter.

How can I help, without actually doing it for her? The whole thing is already making her sick.

Throw out all their belongings and change the locks.

Depends.. in what way are they taking advantage?

Oh, my gosh!!! My experience is fresh with this. She needs to emotionally disassociate herself and her good nature from the leeches dressed up as humans. I don't know that you can help her get there or not, but at least introduce the idea to get the ball rolling. It took me a whole MONTH to get the deed of exterminating actually accomplished!!

Now that's deep!!!!!

THe best way to help is to let your daugther do it. It's never easy to see our loved ones suffer...but we learn from our mistakes...if you intervine she'll learn one thing...mama will do it

Well, you could always suggest to her to tell them they have a certain amount of time to get their affairs in order and once that time is up, they have to go. And if they both (or even one of them) has a job, then I would make the time frame very short, maybe 2 weeks?

They eat her food, don't replace it. They leave lights on, run up her phone, won't clean up after themselves. It doesn't help that she works nights and they get loud when she's sleeping.

Are they just visiting or need a place to stay? Either way, I would tell them they have 2 weeks to find a place. Take the phone with her when she leaves for work.

And, your daughter must be built like me.... feels guilty for feeling so much anger and anguish, trying her best to not be "harsh". If she'll let you intervene or be with her to do the expelling, fine. She could learn from you and you can be her support system. I know it's "family", but they are abusing her and her kind nature and will continue to do so with her blessing until she gets the chutzpah to say enough. Blood may be thicker than water, but blood may indeed have to spill. So, she can pick. Hers or theirs.

Thank you all so much. Guess this might end up being harder for me than her, she's still my baby. I think the sidelines might be the place I am going to have to be. I'll wait and see if I have to bust heads, she won't do that either.