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so heres my question for today
"how many of you have been affected by what someone has said to you?" meaning being put down repeatedly. has it effected you or your self-esteem? and anytime in your life childhood-through now. |
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yup.Childhood.Then I became a man......and people ran.
 
Time can heal a lot of wounds but not all to all people.Sometimes it affects them much deeper and is harder to release.And I suppose it all has to do with what it is or was itself that they have/had said to you and how personal and damaging it is/was. wow.....ok. LOL 
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yup.Childhood.Then I became a man......and people ran.
Time can heal a lot of wounds but not all to all people.Sometimes it affects them much deeper and is harder to release.And I suppose it all has to do with what it is or was itself that they have/had said to you and how personal and damaging it is/was. wow.....ok. LOL
good anwser :) |
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yup.Childhood.Then I became a man......and people ran.
Time can heal a lot of wounds but not all to all people.Sometimes it affects them much deeper and is harder to release.And I suppose it all has to do with what it is or was itself that they have/had said to you and how personal and damaging it is/was. wow.....ok. LOL
good anwser :) |
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Um, yeah, I think that would be true of a lot of people. I think we've all had something hurtful said at some point that we, rightly or wrongly, allowed to affect us. I know it's happened to me. And it's taken a lot of years and a lot of therapy to move beyond it but, I still have moments.
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Edited by
IamMewhoRU
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Fri 08/22/08 07:45 AM
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Thanks sweets
 
BTW....blessings to all this has happend to and may you have strength. One love..... |
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 Time is but the stream I go a-fishing in.
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Thanks sweets
BTW....blessings to all this has happend to and may you have strength. One love..... 
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Time is but the stream I go a-fishing in.
k ive kept it in long enough lol that monkey is ADORABLE his eyes make me wanna hugh im lol 
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Yes, My father once said to me, "I don't like you very much right now, but I'll always love you".
(I had done something quite heinous) That stuck with me... it taught me to separate things people do from who they are. Good people make bad choices and does not define who they are. Myself included. |
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Gosh, when we are young and impressionable, we take what grown-ups say as "truth". Yes, many ugly words, assessments, judgments and opinions have had an effect on me. Some, I've let go of, but sometimes things said still haunt me and have an effect on things I do and feel about myself.
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well i have to say my boss
 but it ok i quit
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well i have to say my boss but it ok i quit
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This has effected me deeply. My ex hubby was very mentally and physically abusive. And while the bruises have all healed the scars from the mental abuse haven't. When you are repeatedly given negative input eventually even you start to believe it no matter how false it is. My ex was the best at attacking my looks. To this day I am insecure when it comes to that issue. Oh I know I am a beautiful person on the inside. But still have many many doubts when it comes to my appearance.
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This has effected me deeply. My ex hubby was very mentally and physically abusive. And while the bruises have all healed the scars from the mental abuse haven't. When you are repeatedly given negative input eventually even you start to believe it no matter how false it is. My ex was the best at attacking my looks. To this day I am insecure when it comes to that issue. Oh I know I am a beautiful person on the inside. But still have many many doubts when it comes to my appearance. awww *hugs* |
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I'm sure everyone has thru out their lives... no one goes untouched by other people's words.
It's as you get older and you learn to deal with it better that defines how much it affects you. |
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well i was asking because i was told through another thred that we control our self-esteem that what people do and say to us doesnt effect it.
which of course upset me because i know what people said has hurt my self-esteem growing up. and i knew i couldnt possibly be the only one. so i thought id see just how many has been affected. |
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It is about framework. I took what my dad said and took the positive out if it.
As well, you assign value to what you hear. It's really is only valuable if you respect the person who says it. It takes a while to sort that out and at times we are programmed to accept what we hear. Changing filters and re-framing is hard. |
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well i was asking because i was told through another thred that we control our self-esteem that what people do and say to us doesnt effect it. which of course upset me because i know what people said has hurt my self-esteem growing up. and i knew i couldnt possibly be the only one. so i thought id see just how many has been affected. The person who told you this speaks incompletely, half way. Yes, ultimately, we should take control of our self esteem, but it can't and doesn't always happen and certainly not 100% of the time. But it's garbage to say what others do and say doesn't effect us, especially in our formative years. Sounds like too much time was spent reading self-improvement books without full comprehension imparted if that person ONLY told you that. |
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