I've been on the receiving end of those kinds of shenanigans for much of my childhood. Most of it was "you'll never amount to anything" diatribe from the useless teachers I've had while in grammar school, but there have been other times when relatives and friends of family have been on the attack.

They wouldn't try that crap nowadays, as I'd probably shove my fist through their face.

i have a good self-esteem now and i dont let what people say get to me.

but i know at one time that wasnt true. and especially children/teens growing up they dont know how to control their self-esteem.

stuff like that

I was teased constantly when I was in school. I do think that to some extent, that it was effected my self esteem. I am always afraid what people think of me, whether they are going to like me, or like what I am going to say. I try not to let it bother me, but sometimes the past just comes back to haunt ya, you know?

amen amen!

when I was younger
things people said used to bother me

but now I am an adult
and I really don't care what others think about me

I have my life to live and they have theirs

Time heals all wounds

Time heals all wounds IF you take the time to do the work to resolve the pain those wounds inflicted.

My ex husband used to tell me how fat and unattractive I was. He said I'd never find a man that would want me. So, I set out to prove him wrong. Made a lot of mistakes. Now, I'm just like "this is me, take it or leave it!"

very true
and some people will not take the time

Funny, I always say people will not do the work. Wallowing, whining, and being angry are way easier!

I mean by this, is that if you do the work you really will get over it. All else is but an excuse.

very true

Awwwwww..... You are beautiful Inside AND outside{{{Destiny}}}

(SEE, I got it right... No Lumps now .)

I must say, this has been one of the most heart-felt threads I have run across here

It's GREAT...!!


<===TO ALL..!!

I went through and still do go through a lot of this, like with my dad always having a short temper with me. He'd yell at me when we'd go canoeing up north, for not doing this right or that right, and take the fun out of it. Or he'd tell me how I tied my shoes was pathetic (when I was a bit older then usual for that mind you). Stuff like that.

He just seems to be uptight about everything, to the point of hurting me in the process. Like I was in Seattle with him recently, and we were up in the space needle. Well I happened to notice Key Arena nearby, former home of the NBA's Seattle Sonics. I thought it was neat, and pointed it out. He acted like he didn't even care, like it was nothing. That really hurt me when he said that. It's things like that that make it hard to get close to him, and I feel like nothing is ever good enough for the guy.

Then on my mom's side, well for starters she was almost gonna abort me if not for my dad. That hurts in itself to know that I wasn't wanted at first by her. Plus I really don't get along with her or my grandma much, we argue over my independence or lack of it. Feel fenced in by them sometimes.

Beyond that, I've been called stupid or dumb for one reason or another, that I don't think, that my hair is a mess, that they won't take me out anywhere looking like I do, or that I'm just like my father (not in a good way, parents never married).

Was picked on a lot in middle school too, hated going to school back then. It was so bad I once got thrown out the door of the school in the middle of winter while switching classes, and subsequently locked out for several moments before being let back in.

So yeah needless to say my self esteem isn't exactly very high at points.