perhaps you could post a script that i could read from....

perhaps you could post a script that i could read from....

nahhh...they couldn't continue to torture us if they actually gave us a script...lol

Are some guys kind of clueless when it comes to talking for the first time to a woman online? Here's some hints from a woman who is down to earth. Say "hello" . Offer information about yourself . Don't ask her alot of questions at first . Offer your information, and tell her abit about you , even tell her what you expect from this. Give her plenty of oportunities to comment on what you are saying. Then you may ask some questiosn, such as, "Have you been happy on this website?" "What do you like about it?" "Have you met anyone from here?" "What kinds of things do you like to do?" "Would you be interested in going out to dinner with me?" (just some basics, that would meet with my expectations) ...Ladies, pwwwwwease help me explain this stuff to them?

Oh, finally!!! A cooperative MAN!!!
here it goes...#1 You are a very lovely woman.
#2 How may I be of service to you?
#3 May I sweep you off your feet?
#4 I'm planning a trip to Hawaii, wanna go?
#5 Let's get some icecream sundaes and star gaze.
#5 What's your favorite bling?

Its just not one sided.

ive had girls give me nothing to respond too. you cant make us do all the work this is a Dating site, not a bar/meeting someone randomly.

but i will admit, i know guys who are bad about it and say wrong things.

---interesting comment, I find most first-time chats complete torchure

clueless in general, maybe a little frightened. You women are always watch and judging analyzing every word used and how it was used how can a guy cope with this kind of pressure
oh by the way "How you doing!"

Hey, when you find one of those guys...Get back with me, k?

I have a theory I call "Irony When Faced With Real, Interrupting The Image". This theory states that:

The assumption of one's thought about how we perceive another is almost always different after that other person opens his or her mouth to talk.

While I much love giving people the benefit of the doubt (and let's face it, on here we almost HAVE to do that), 9 times out of 10, first impressions in an online world are, at best, a crap shoot. This is due mostly to the limited function of words on a screen substituted for body language, facial expressions, and voice pitch.

Conversely, those same "words on a screen" have such an odd empowering effect, people (guys and girls) say things on here they would NEVER say to someone's face, offline, "in real life".

Finally, there are two kinds of people online. Those that view the Internet as an extension of reality, and those that view it as an escape from reality. In many cases, it takes but a single conversation to figure out what a person's intentions are on here.

Just my (not so) humble opinion... of course, I could be wrong.

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Hello, that is an excellent analysis. Especially, "two kinds of people online. Those that view the Internet as an extension of reality, and those that view it as an escape from reality." I'm one of those escape from reality gals...I like to relax and use my wits as an escape from bordom, etc. But, back to your point, tonight I had the unpleasant experience of chatting with a guy (from my own town) who literally had a temper ALL CAPS tantrum on me when I said, "well, thanks for the chat, I have to go now" to which he responded, "oh, Oh!" to which I responded "bye bye; I don't think that we are a good match here, and I hope you have a nice life" to which he responded that I was RUDE.