I might be missing an implication or two, but I'm going to answer, to the best of my ability.


This isn't just something men do, but we probably do it to a greater extent. Now me, I've gone out with women I've had no intrest in besides casual dating. Why? To have someone to go out with. Now I've never gone out with these women more than once, and didn't just "hit it and leave." All I did was take them to dinner, a play, a movie, whatever, and took them home. Most never even got kissed at the door. I didn't see anything wrong with it, and well, I needed the practice anyway so that I don't blow it completely when I do meet the right woman.

Other reasons I might go on a date with someone I don't care about. Women force the issue. Half the time I've been out on a date with someone I had no initial intrest in was because I was playing "wing man" to a friend. He couldn't get a date, unless he found a date for a friend.

About 10 percent of the time it's because some woman asked me out. Strange as it sounds it has happened, so guys don't give up completely. I've never turned a woman down for a date. I figure, she's at least got taste, so I should at least see if we have the possibility of getting along.

Now if these seem like selfish reasons for dating someone only a couple, well, tough. Bad things happend to good people every day, can't stop it. I don't feel I'm leading anyone on, because I'm not going to tell them "oh we'll be together forever." No I'm saying "wanna eat something." If women would stop trying to read so much into what men say, we wouldn't have these problems. So when I say, "wanna go to the movies," I'm not asking "do you wanna walk down the aisle with me," I'm actually asking if you want to watch a bunch of overpaid actors portray a poorly written script.

So there were your practice throw away plastic dates so when the fine china came in you'd know how to take care of them right? Wow, that speaks volumes....

perfect!!! it is all the other crap that is just plain manipulation and wrong wrong wrong i say...

Yeah, sort of, I wouldn't consider them throw away, I don't believe in the disposable society. Several of these women remained friends for years. Heck I was talking to one just yesterday.

Now that being said, I learned the practice from Kristen. She's the one that told me "you need to just go out with random people a couple times. Get some practice." That was years ago. I felt I had enough practice by the time I was 24 or 25. So now, the only time I do a solo date is when I get "wing manned."

As far as how that speaks of me, that is just your own mindset. You don't know me, you've never been around me, so if you think that tells you "all you need to know" so be it. I could care less. I will say, that this kind of narrow mindset speaks volumes as well.

Well honestly how would one know for sure if they want to be around someone unless they do date them a few times.

I have seen those that say they would never marry again or be tied down to only one person. Then they went out on a date with someone and well they seemed to have forgot what they said.

Myself unless there is and attraction to that person the first date would most likely be the last one and I would be honest and tell them I would rather keep it on a friends level.

But I see nothing wrong if two people date with no intentions of getting married or living together as long as they are only with each other. For there has to be something there as far as feelings or they would not stay together.

I have seen some that broke up due to they wanted to get married and did not see the other one was ever going to ask. Does not mean they don't have feelings for them just that is not what they are ready for at that time. And no one likes to be pressured in to things.

If it is going to happen it will happen if not then it was not meant to be.

But one must ask why would anyone stay with someone if they knew honestly the other person did not have those kind of feelings for them and to them it was only till they found someone better? ?

Would not the person that stayed knowing that be in the wrong for hanging on for what they know they can't have?

Myself I have never known any that went on more then one date with someone unless there was some type of emontions involved.

Or unless they dropped them after they got what they wanted. And most that are only after the sex will not stay around for more then a couple of dates they will venture off to another one. For in most part those have the idea I took you out bought you dinner now give me my dessert

I have seen this go both ways with men and women.

Old people go on dates for the company.....

I call it the bigger better deal syndrome or keeping your options open. Guys or gals afraid to commit to one person for fear they may miss out on something they perceive as better. In short being wishy washy. And I have seen it many times on here where in private they are telling someone they are interested in being exclusive while in public they are chasing everyone that will let them. Harmless flirting aside if you aren't willing to make a commitment to putting in the effort in one person exclusively how do you expect to build anything much less a relationship?????

Heh, heh, heh. You're a keeper.

Yes, my narrow mind says that people who use others for their own agendas don't need to be in my company... My narrow mind has never lead me astray...

As Kristi said it takes a few dates to know if you like someone or not, but to go into the FIRST date knowing you never want a second one is pure deception... My narrow mind voids people like that from exsistance.

I guess I don't understand where you're coming from. I don't have any preconceived notions when it comes to dating. How can I know if I want a second date with someone before I even have the first? I do understand that by the pure act of asking a woman to do anything, a date is implied, but I can't just ask someone I like to go do something fun, but have no romantic intentions? That is an agenda or a deception? I don't think so, but apparently we're viewing this differently.

I can say with all honesty, I've never asked someone out for covert reasons. I never asked out Jill so I could go out with Alice later. I've never asked out Jane just because I wanted to hurt her. Those are agendas. Asking out someone just to see 'what they are like' is not the same thing. However, I'm a man, and often have to ask out complete strangers. Women, get it easy and get to choose who they go out with.

Believe me the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

Sex, the thing is, they'er not emotionally involved or they would stay with that person. I have been with girls when i was a teen. hell i didn;t care at the time. it was all about the excitment, just having fun. What happens, is some people never grow out of it.