That I always get myself in a mess.

I started to fall a little bit for this one guy I been talking to for about a month from this site. We used to text through out the day, call each other after work. And now for about two weeks he being ignoring me telling me he is busy and blah blah blah. We text many the max ten times a day, and he doesn’t call me at night even though he says he will.

Last Tuesday, I had a lot going on with my family and I called him about 8 times through out a 4 hour period. He let it ring and go to voice mail I left two voice mails telling him I need to talk to someone who would understand. Hence I was crying my eyes out, he picked up the one time and hung up on me and turned off his phone. The next day he acted like nothing happened.

Even though he knows that I liked/cared for him it didn’t seem to matter. Even though he told me I am special and he is not ignoring me he is just busy with his new job he is getting ready to go train 5 weeks at. So he at the place he needs to train at today, and will be there for 5 weeks, he talked about flying out to see him during his training to meet him. And I told him this morning I am done I‘m going on a break, being ignored if his seriously wants to meet me he needs to get back to be after the 5weeks. And he acts like didn’t say anything, he keeps me telling me I’m special and he needs me.

I’m at the end that I am completely done messing around with him. He just doesn’t seem to understand that I need someone that will at least call me once a day to hear his voice even if its just to say Hello.

I don’t know what to do, just start ignoring his sorry a$$ to see how he likes it? If anyone has an advice on what to do please let me know.

Thank you, <3 Courtney.

Dump him and move on...you'll find the right guy

i see youve meant mike!
haha


forget him hes married

Um...his name is not Mike.

you need to borrow Angel's batteries and move on

aww his loss sweets, lottsa nice guys out there that will sweep ya off yur feet.!!!

Court my love... Forget him and move on you know you're better than that!! You can do better than that! You're an amazing person.. Just keep on pushin forward babe

first of all Im so sorry your going through this crap but he may still be married, that would explane a lot. its hard for us to say when were not in your shoes

let him go.. He obviously got issues to be ignoring you

Your only 19 enjoy the messes!!! Embrace the temporary misery and move on. The best you can do is LEARN form them and avoid the mess in the future. Or just keep getting in them until you grow up and really realize what you want. Them all things will be good.....

Aww can I be totally honest so I can save you some grief? You are a beautiful girl.. you don't NEED any man!! You honestly sound like a very needy girl, why? One day you are going to realize that you DON'T have to talk to the person you are dating every single day...it is not a have to thing. Some people do like their space!! Maybe you were just coming on as clingy and needy...back off a little!!
I think when you get older, you get wiser. I am at that point in my life to where I do not NEED a man but it would be nice to have someone. The younger people feel like they have to spend every second texting and calling the ones they have feelings for. I think if you would just slow down and give each other space...maybe the relationships would last a little bit longer!!
Plus you talked about ignoring his calls and playing his games...aren't you a little old for games?? Communication is the key to any relationship...even friendship!! I would leave him alone and let him call you, then when he comes back from his training have a long talk face to face. IF he can't give you what YOU want~~walk away. YOU are the one calling the shots, not him!! The only person that you can control is yourself and trust me, IF he is NOT treating you the way you want to be treated..WALK AWAY!!!
Good luck

simply find what you want

Sounds like you are getting your answer from his actions. Good luck to you, really, but it sounds like he's just not in the same place you are. That is just how it goes sometimes. Sorry if that sounds cold or unfeeling--it isn't meant to.

Best,

Drew

I didn't read past this... There's your answer.

yep
i beleve iver heard this one from a similar looking poster once or twice since she joined...

ill agree with dubz

I'm sorry to say, it sounds as if he's just not that into you.

Thank you
(((Seahawks)))
(((Ali)))
(((Unsure)))
and (((iRon)))

I read everyone post, and I have to say our four were the best out of all the advice so far, thank you.

(((Etrain)))
The dumping has been done already, I told him if he wants it to work to get back to be after the 5weeks of his training is over. But he keeps trying to contact me, telling me he still wants me to come see him. I wouldnt mind going to see him just to see if it would be worth trying to fix. But I'm insure about that.

You call the guy 8 times in a four hour period, telling him that you are hurting (via voice mail) and he acts the way he did...well, that tells you dude is just playing with ya and that he more than likely has women he is into that you don't know about. You know the type...call it "Manwhore", cause this is screaming it. Especially when you say he tells you how special you are and all that. Typical manwhore line (Trust me. I have a friend who is a self proclaimed manwhore and thus I know what guys like this think and say).

I will agree with Unsure that you do sound a little needy, and you don't need to be like that. I know that you want someone to be with. Hell, we all do...but this guy obviously isn't the one, and kudos to you for kicking him to the curb. Just don't let him back into your life cause he will disappoint and hurt you. Just my gut feeling their.

Courtney, dump him and move on with your life. You are young and will find "MR RIGHT"