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I read this somewhere and thought it fit in with this dicussion We should tell our loved ones. "That we, Love her without fear Trust her without questioning Need her without demanding Want her without restrictions Accept her without change Desire her without inhibitions That is beautiful. I wish that is how it worked. I want a man that can feel this way! |
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Well... I wouldn't go severing an arm or a leg just to test the theory..... No1, From what I've heard (read?) I don't think you'll have any worries. |
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Edited by
Monier
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Fri 08/08/08 08:00 AM
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You love your partner, but no longer find them attractive. How does this effect your relationship, and what can you do about it? Anything? Can you really still be in love with someone you no longer find physically attractive? My advice to anybody who's significant other is no longer attracted to them, is to leave. It will save the heartache from the inpending bs conversations they will have with you when their true thoughts about you are out in the open. What should people do, change who they are so the one they love will love them back? IMO attraction has nothing to do with love. Love and lust do not go hand in hand. Sometimes when the rush felt from a new relationship is over, people often mistake losing that excitement for their partner being less attractive. When I was in my early twenties, I used to have a saying about relationships 'If I changed my face every night, I would be the perfect lover' |
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Well... I wouldn't go severing an arm or a leg just to test the theory..... No1, From what I've heard (read?) I don't think you'll have any worries. I'm thinking he's gonna give you a pass on this one. A third eye? That might be hard to overcome initially. |
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You love your partner, but no longer find them attractive. How does this effect your relationship, and what can you do about it? Anything? Can you really still be in love with someone you no longer find physically attractive? My advice to anybody who's significant other is no longer attracted to them, is to leave. It will save the heartache from the inpending bs conversations they will have with you when their true thoughts about you are out in the open. What should people do, change who they are so the one they love will love them back? IMO attraction has nothing to do with love. Love and lust do not go hand in hand. Sometimes when the rush felt from a new relationship is over, people often mistake losing that excitement for their partner being less attractive. When I was in my early twenties, I used to have a saying about relationships 'If I changed my face every night, I would be the perfect lover' |
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Here is the sad thing too. See, when I got married in 1997, I weighed at 220, which wasn't bad cause I was active. Then, well you know marriage, you get lazy and all, so I gained weight. But, my ex was still attracted to me. Then, she the gastric bypass surgery, and it worked wonders for her. She looked great, but I was happy that she was happy and felt better about herself. So, knowing she had success with it, and also developing some health issues of my own, my doctor reccommended the surgery. I did it back in 2004, and am glad I did. I feel great, but I also kept my same attitude.
Now, here is the funny part. My ex started to find me less attractive when I lost weight. Aint that some s*it? I'm happy, healthy, and yet she doesn't want to touch me. Weird, but as you can see, even if you lose the weight, people can still find you unattractive. My point is this. Their has to be a physical attraction throughout the relationship. I am not saying base the relationship on this. I am saying that you have to have it for the relationship to work. If it wanes, then you are doomed. |
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Personally, I like to believe that if you truly love someone, you would always see them as the person you fell in love with...body changes, scars or even loss of limbs would not change the way you view them. Exactly! |
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That happened to me I lost all attraction to my husband and eventually I had to end it................cant be with a person if im not attracted to them cuz what happens you start resenting them and you loose all type of respect for them..........
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yes i would .thats how i was raised my mom stuck with my dad even through all the strokes and probs with diabitis and to me thats what love is better or worse thick and thin.
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You love your partner, but no longer find them attractive. How does this effect your relationship, and what can you do about it? Anything? Can you really still be in love with someone you no longer find physically attractive? |
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My husband had a HUGE scar from the center of his back around under his arm to his nipple where they removed a lung. He lost all of his hair, turned jaundice, etc etc etc. Truly one of the most beautiful people I've ever known.
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That happened to me I lost all attraction to my husband and eventually I had to end it................cant be with a person if im not attracted to them cuz what happens you start resenting them and you loose all type of respect for them.......... ditto, |
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Edited by
No1sLove
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Fri 08/08/08 01:57 PM
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I think most of us believe that we can...and some of us know from experience that love can truly be blind.
I don't think I realized how sickly my fiance looked when he was dying...until years later when I came across a picture taken in the hospital. I still refuse to believe he looked like that. I only saw the man I met until the very end. Auburn |
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