NOTE: LONG READ

Disclaimer: This is an observation of something going on in our society and no way trying to demoralize women. It is at best a situation being understood and the actions behind it. The stereotypes are only used to describe what already is there and is no way 100% accurate. People should date whoever they choose and not because everyone else is doing it. This creates a sheep mentality and is dictated externally rather then ones own values.

Have you seen this phenomenon? Everywhere I go I see these interracial couples. Now I don’t have anything against them but as a student of psychology I tend to see things on another level. What I will discuss is dating and stereotypes. There are many theories on this.

Perhaps this became fashionable after World War II when an Asian wife became idolized as someone being exotic.

So what attracts a white man to an Asian woman?

Lets think of a her background. Usually in an Asian household this woman will be conditioned more to be submissive, shy, and probably more into communicating since learning all the science and math will be conditioned towards her male siblings.

For the white men and all men for that matter she might be seen as far more sexually attractive then other women. She may appear stylish and having more taste in her appearance. He may even like her because he believes she may be a better housekeeper and because she may be eager to please him more.

Now this is a generalization. So don’t believe this as the truth. As we know our truths are always changing due to the many perceptions that are broadcasted to us from the media, friends, and family. What we can do is be authentic about our own values.

So what happened to the Asian male and the white woman? I believe diversity is good but what’s stopping from meeting individuals as good as the ones in their race?

Well, what do we usually see in an Asian man?

He is a nerd, into computer science or an engineer, with horrible style and social skills. Usually our minds use the word wimp to describe him. But there is another side. The Asian male can be masculine but what has been portrayed is an Asian gangster. He’s man wearing suits, having lots of cash, and riding around in fast sports cars. These are the stereotypes we see in our society.

What about the white woman? She’s still hot. She’s still the material girl. She works hard and doesn’t take much ****. So what can be theorized is that the Asian women seen by the white men are women that he unconsciously believes he can dominate more. Since the Asian women are raised to be submissive more the white man probably sees her femininity as obedient. So unconsciously the men will believe that she may be more loyal rather then the white woman.

If the woman is Asian American there will be few changes to her conditioning. This depends on the environment she is raised in. If most of her friends were white growing up then she will be white washed. If they were mostly black then she may enjoy being with an African American guy more then anyone else. Her culture will dictate many things that she will accept as the norm.

Like I said there are just examples and can’t be constituted as the truth because there will be exceptions to every rule.

So why are there more white guys holding hands with Asian girls while riding in their Integra?

There can be many reasons: she’s trying to get a green card, she probably thinks the white guy will have more money then the Asian guy, and the Asian guy may seem less confident then the white guy. As ridiculous as these reasons sound…anything is possible. Maybe he just has yellow fever.

I’m beginning to believe that this phenomenon is partly due to the location. I reside in the Bay Area. So what can be expected is a high number of Asian Americans living in here. This is migration is thanks to the Gold rush era of America which also had many races arriving in the “New World”.

These men may even enjoy their culture and have decided to peruse Asian woman as a mate. There are many sides to a story.

So why is the white guy attractive to the Asian women?

Maybe she feels like she’s living the American dream. Some male minorities have dreamed of marrying a white woman. This maybe the case for the Asian woman. In her eyes he’s more attractive and has more value. Another guy could probably be with her but because of her conditioning of her environment/media attraction will be assumed with the white man. If the other guy is far more confident and charismatic he will sweep her of her feet. Buts that a topic for another time.

Let’s see what the future of the phenomenon will be. More interracial families perhaps? More children being half Caucasian and sharing an Asian ancestry?

For now it looks like a fad…kind of like the strong/masculine black man attracting white women…and yet he is still depicted as a thug, performer, or athlete.

It was long

Somewhat confusing

that is pretty long and one day i entend to read it,

Huh? Wha? Oops, I fell asleep. Where were we?

tomorrow...ill read it tomorrow

I don't think it's a fad. It's been a popular pairing since the 40's. I think you got it right. I'd add the Asian women are usually petite which men seem to love.

I don't think my cousin views his intelligent, witty and loving wife, who happens to be Asian, as a fad...and neither do we!

You reference Asian Women and African American men. Why use the reference "caucasion", "white men" and "white women". Politically correct for some but not all? Try using "European American" please!

i rather not be politically correct. As scheming politicians mix words around they lose their meaning and people never get the full picture. ex. what used to be called Shell Shock for soldiers who came back from war stressed out is now called Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome.

A man I previously dated was widowed and his deceased wife was Asian. He is white. They are in Toronto which is a heavily populated area for Asians. I just always felt that it was for that reason. That and the fact that he loved her. It is refreshing to see that love doesn't see race. Also, he told me once that SHE said once, you rarely see a Asian man with a white woman.

that is very long and one day i ented on reading it,